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14 years ago @ WordPress blog at up4d... - Can I Pop Your Pimple?... · 0 replies · +1 points

I can dig it, kinda like popping his pimples was a way to take out your aggression on him? That sounds kinda devious and #50Shades of you... I like it!

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14 years ago @ WordPress blog at up4d... - Can I Pop Your Pimple?... · 0 replies · +1 points

Oh how I desire a long-distance relationship! You can fall in "like" through the mere exchange of words rather than mouth to mouth food particles. *sigh*. I often have to think to myself, did I really date him?
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14 years ago @ WordPress blog at up4d... - Can I Pop Your Pimple?... · 0 replies · +1 points

Yea the ingrown hair was my version of the pimple... it's kinda the same, no? LOL. I think someone on twitter said his mother does his father's feet every Sunday night or something like that, it's now their ritual. But when you look back, you have to wonder, did I really do that for him?
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14 years ago @ WordPress blog at up4d... - Question of the Week: ... · 1 reply · +2 points

I like tattoos, I have a few myself. I'm instantly more attracted to men with tattoos. As long as they're significant and not on the face, I pretty much think tattoos make you hotter!

14 years ago @ Single Black Male - Single Sam's Episodes ... · 0 replies · +1 points

I'm definitely looking forward to the series! the writing is so beautiful.

After reading this story I personally know of three girls in this situation. 1) got out like Samantha, 2) has three kids by the dude and he's still not divorced from his wife 3) still in and wading.
I dont know if it's the idea of possibilities or not, but I think at some point we all reach a point where we want to believe beyond the facts.
You get out, you get in, you live, you learn... it's all a process. I think Sam now has an opportunity to reflect and forgive herself; absolve the blame from the relationship and leave it at that... a relationship that ended.
I saw to myself all the time, can't no person be that mean, deceitful, or oblivious to the hurt from their actions. But it happens all the time and you reach a point where you just move on and move forward.
I can't wait to hear the other parts of the story :-)
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14 years ago @ Single Black Male - Chris Brown Can Beat Me · 1 reply · +6 points

I think it's deplorable to make light of domestic violence. At the heart of these girls tweets is the same problem that young girls (who become women) have: they think that they can change a man. They think that whatever they have to offer is so much better than the other chick that a man like Chris Brown would never beat them or hurt them or abuse them. They think (jokingly or not) that Rihanna deserved it because she incited his anger and they would never get themselves in that position.

As a mentor to young girls, its sad to see what they will accept because of their own low esteem and this idea that being with a handsome and famous man will somehow elevate them.

Even worse, is that they wont ever be chastised or public censured for their disrespectful comments. Why? Because no one really cares about the few careless tweets of teenybopper fans. But when these easily influenced women often fall for men who will eventually prey on their insecurities and become the broken women they once defamed.
Cycles are sad in their viciousness.
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14 years ago @ Single Black Male - Right vs Wrong: Black,... · 0 replies · +1 points

My mom sat me down one say and said: your dad is a good guy but he's not perfect. He has things that I've had to fix but I love him. That's what you need in a man: a good heart that needs growth.
Not sure if every mom has this talk with her daughters but it has impact. If women chose men like their fathers (knowingly, unknowingly) then they will try to find that good hearted man who is still in the process of growing up.
Even more, I think its easier to accept and be with someone who's flawed because then you dont feel so encumbered by your own flaws.
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14 years ago @ Single Black Male - Bittersweet Memories: ... · 0 replies · +3 points

when I was a kid, I dressed up every Halloween as Rachel (circa Bodyguard) in a gray dress with a microphone. I would knock on doors and sing I Will Always Love You instead of saying Trick or Treat. I devoted a Whitney song to every junior high and high school crush I had. I would take her 45s, hold up a tape recorder to record the song, and then listen to it on my Walkman on my way to school. From "How Will I Know" to "So Emotional" to "Just the Lonely" to "Until you Come Back" I have a puppy love story that corresponds to the melody of her voice. She understood me in a way that made her more than my icon, she was my replacement mother, my absent sister, my best friend, the crooner who sung me to sleep. She knew how to capture what my heart longed to hear and how to vocalize the words that never came. I remember being in foster homes, reading her unofficial biography (paperback with a pink cover) and thinking that one day I was going to make it. I was going to be an all star singer. I would plan my acceptance speech in a juvenile hand, always remembering to thank her thinking I would look down to her shining face.
Her death is like losing a part of my childhood, I just can't believe she's gone.
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14 years ago @ Single Black Male - Stories That Make You ... · 0 replies · +5 points

Posts like this remind me how inherently selfish we are, most times we don't see past our own grief. There's some quote out there that says: you could save a thousand people if you stop focusing on yourself (or something to that effect).
I think it also translates into walls and barriers... how we're not open to sharing ourselves with others because of what they may think about us. It's easier to accept their judgement when we know it's unfounded.
IDK, this made me cry on the metro. Nice post.
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14 years ago @ Single Black Male - A Man and His Many Vic... · 5 replies · +4 points

I know too many men with these vices, but they are good men in general so they are easy to overlook. I liked the thorough breakdown, helps me to understand them better because of course they aren't prone to deep reflective moments (with me at least).
My vices... 1) procrastination. I only procrastinate when I'm under a lot of stress. Otherwise I'm head down, eyes focused. But when there are too many priorities to manage I ignore them all.
2) Online shopping. This usually happens when I have a bad day, when I feel unappreciated. Then I buy something nice to smooth my ruffled feathers.
3) Sleeping. This may be a weird vice, but when things are overwhelming I run straight to bed and fall asleep. It would be different if I took a nap (usually 1-3hours) but I'll sleep like 10-15 hours in hopes of escaping my problems. They are always there when I wake up, but for a while I'm not thinking about them.
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