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13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Lose A Friend: How do ... · 0 replies · +3 points

In any life, but especially in military life, there will always be friendships that come and go, and that's healthy and normal. We grow, we mature into different paths or different arenas, and friendships grow and change too.

My best friend from college was my world in college. But now, 10 years later, we've moved into new stages of our lives where we each have new focuses. I love her all the same, and would do anything for her, but to expect that we're going to communicate and invest in each other the same as we did then would be absurd. She is not any less important to me, but I can not be all things to all people. And neither can she. We are human, not superheros.

We can not freeze time and keep all things the same. There is no room for the new people when we cling in desperation to the old. Enjoy where you are now. Enjoy the people around you now, for who they are to you now and the great times of friendship, now. And love them as they move into new circles of life, and as you do too.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Would You Send Your Mi... · 0 replies · +3 points

Building skills, no matter what they are, is never a bad thing. I remember the summer I learned to shoot at the rifle range at my summer camp - and it was a blast. I kept going back every day, improving my skills and working hard to earn my marksman badge. I was very proud to receive that award at the end.

But teaching kids to fear is never okay. Survivalist skills are useful and great to learn. But do it out of a sense of adventure and learning, not by teaching my kid to be scared of people and how to draw lines in the sand against others.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Poll: Should She Tell ... · 3 replies · -1 points

The daughter needs to find an advocate to confide in and take action for her. No child should be put in this kind of position. She needs a third-party to take the action of telling, seeking justice, etc. The situation is wrong, but it's wrong to ask a daughter to bear this burden.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - How a Psychic Made my ... · 0 replies · +2 points

I believe in asking for a vision, and have done that of God on a few occasions. Sometimes, you need to know what far off point you're headed towards, and God has been faithful to show that to me when I needed it. And then there are plenty of times when he asks me to just take things one step at a time and trust that it's a good path. That's frustrating, but I have found that whatever path God calls me to follow, whether it be with a map or a glow stick, that it's a good one.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Used or Honored? Jeep ... · 3 replies · +4 points

I am split the same way. In the end, I don't think the message (wording) was clear enough to communicate to a general population that is so detached from the actual process of war. In the end, I feel like anything military-related in advertising is such lip service when most Americans would be surprised by the fact that we are still fighting a war.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Women in Combat: Make ... · 0 replies · +5 points

In my 8 years in the Army, I've known women who weren't cut out for an army desk job, and women who could hang with the toughest men. Make the standards in every MOS accurately reflect the requirements of the job, and then apply them equally. Discrimination - done. If you can hack, you can hack it. If you can't, you can't. It's really that simple. I have no desire to be an infantrywoman - but if you do, and you can do the job well, then rock it.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - What Does a Spouse Des... · 0 replies · +1 points

I'm going to support his commitment to the army regardless...but if someone wants to recognize 20+ years of spouse service as well, I'm just liking the jewelry concept. I'm not saying spouses need incentives to be faithful...although a few less deployments might help.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - What Does a Spouse Des... · 2 replies · +5 points

I like the jewelry idea! It's like a medal or ribbon...except one that we will actually wear all the time! Nothing like a diamond around my neck to commemorate my faithfulness to military life!

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Top Ten Ways To Deal W... · 0 replies · +2 points

You had me at #1, 2 and 3...and then it kept getting better! Really good stuff here.

13 years ago @ SpouseBUZZ.com - Why Everyone Hates the... · 2 replies · +20 points

Every FRG needs to be assessed individually. Some are crap, and some are outstanding.

What makes an outstanding FRG is people who care more about people than programs/jobs/reputation/awards. If it doesn't revolve around a truthful assessment of family needs, and then produce programs, projects and events designed to directly address those actual needs - then it's probably an insular institutionalized ball of crap.

If yours is outstanding, enjoy it and take notes.

If yours is crap, what are you doing to make it better? Infiltrate and spread new/better ideas. Use your energy to do what others are not doing.

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