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12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What's Up With Guys Wo... · 5 replies · +4 points

Pops,

Check this post out: http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com/2011/09/when...

I broke it down for women and men.

Good post.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Why Are We All Looking... · 1 reply · 0 points

Yeah we did.
http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get...

Point #2.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Why Are We All Looking... · 0 replies · +8 points

Appreciate this post, penned my post for Friday this morning because of it.

I think it's a certain type of person who thinks that they have to subscribe to the popular thought about relationships, marriages and good/bad significant others... it's not even an issue of losing morals/values either. Quite frankly if you are still subscribing to that thought, you're becoming an outdated individual. Nobody else is doing that anymore.

But i'll expand on Friday.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - When It Comes To Relat... · 0 replies · +2 points

Amen to that brother.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Date That Man: 6 Reaso... · 0 replies · +5 points

I doubt it's to derail Black men. Most Black men, ~89% of Black men marry Black women. I agree there is mass paranoia being spread, as I stated in my post today, but I don't know if it's really targeted to black men or women.

But to expand on your point about 42% vs. 51% it doesn't take into account a lot of other things:
1) Incarceration rates that lead to marriages falling apart
2) Death
3) Disparities in education and how that leads to marriages falling apart
4) On the flip side, there are several cultures that shun divorce leaving women in marriages that have failed but not dissolved

All that to say, i'm not all that worried about 51 vs. 42. To me... it's a non-issue.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Date That Man: 6 Reaso... · 1 reply · +1 points

And also... Essence and Demetria can feel free to throw stats out there without a source, but around these parts... it's not allowed.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Date That Man: 6 Reaso... · 2 replies · +2 points

"Here are the facts: 75% of black women will have married by the age of 35, with more marrying after the age of 35. The vast majority of black women will get married. "

Don't get too far ahead of yourself with that statistic because it does not prove the other stat wrong. When they mention the 42% stat it includes the amount of women who have been married and are no longer married. Also, the statistics around black women who do marry are skewed tremendously by their level of education.

In all things, it means nothing to have been married. It's only important that you are married, as in, still married.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - When It Comes To Relat... · 2 replies · +6 points

"you know what, you're right."

That's gold! I've been using that for years.

The problem is when they come back at you like, "You don't really think i'm right. Do you?" That's when you KNOW they're arguing just to argue.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - When It Comes To Relat... · 0 replies · +1 points

Nobody labeled it that. But I don't want to take away from the post so I respect your right to dissent, respectfully.

Would rather focus on the overall purpose of the piece which I think stood fine without this detour.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - Stop Google'ing The Pe... · 2 replies · -1 points

"I recently met a Man on Instagram."

Stopped reading after this.

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