Here's why I think we get unhappy https://dawnlhamo.wordpress.com/2015/07/28/longin...

I think that we all are more complex and changeable than to label one person an empath and one a narcissist. I have been with someone for 14 years and these dynamics switch around sometimes. It just seems a bit black and white, good vs. evil to call one person one or other other. People who tend toward some spectrum of narcissist, maybe wounded, but can be very capable of deeply loving. One of my Buddhist teachers, Tsoknyi Rinpoche says, "most westerners have some form of wounded love, and many of us through trauma, have lost our basic warmth." Narcissism and lack of empathy is our rampant cultural style, it's hard to find someones who's not. I think that even within our wounds and how they pattern themselves, we can work with each other with dialouge and care. I prefer not to look at an entire person in a black and white way, seems a bit limiting and inaccurate, no? ♥