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15 years ago @ Single Dad Laughing - The CURE for \"Perfect... · 0 replies · +2 points

My biggest struggles I have found since reading your first article and really looking at myself. They are:
1) I never feel good enough. I feel like I'm a failure at everything I do and that I never do anything right.
2) Although I am calm, cheerful, and kind on the outside, I am a very angry person. I take it out on the people and animals closest to me when they don't deserve it. I yell at them and lose my temper.

I would tell myself now that I have recognized these problems that I am a capable person. I can do things right and at times I do them better than anyone else on Earth, like when I take care of our son for example. I also need to direct my rightful anger to the one who caused it. I should tell them how I feel and give them a chance to apologize. I should also find another outlet for my anger so I don't get upset with my family when they don't deserve it.

Your original post gave me some things to think about and examine in my life. The pain I carry from not feeling good enough, from the rape as a teen, from being a failure as a mother all stem back to my insecurity of not feeling "good enough".

15 years ago @ Single Dad Laughing - The disease called "Pe... · 0 replies · +1 points

This was me: "Perfection" is a woman who is so overwhelmed that she thinks about killing herself daily. "Perfection" makes it so that she never will because of the things people will think if she does. How could I make my suicide look like an accident? If I kill myself, I don't want anybody knowing that I ever had any problems. She never stops to look at why she wants to do it, because healing means admitting imperfection.

Because of this: "Perfection" is a mom hating herself because she only sees that every other mom around her is the perfect mother, the perfect wife, and the perfect neighbor. I'd give anything to be Mrs. Jones. Today she ran 34 miles, cooked six complete meals, participated in a two-hour activity with each of her seven children, hosted a marriage class with her husband, and still had time to show up for Bunco. What this mom doesn't know is that Mrs. Jones is also at home crying right now because the pressure to be "Perfect" never lets up.

I got help with my husband at my side and am doing much better. I still feel sad nearly everyday, but every day it gets better and I am no longer suicidal.

15 years ago @ Farber Family Adventures - BLOGMANIA!!! · 0 replies · +1 points

I'd love one!

darryen8808@yahoo.com

15 years ago @ http://theblessingsofm... - Blog Award · 0 replies · +1 points

Congrats! Thank you so much for passing it on to me.

15 years ago @ The Professional Famil... - Six Ways Business Card... · 0 replies · +1 points

I've been wanting some calling cards for myself and my son during play dates. It's so much easier than having to write my info 10 different times for several different moms.

Darryen8808@yahoo.com

15 years ago @ The Professional Famil... - Mothers Are Not Societ... · 0 replies · +1 points

AMEN! This is an awesome post. Thank you for summing up the article. I'll def. be reading it once LB is tucked in bed tonight.

15 years ago @ http://www.natalielove... - You'll Never Guess!! · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi there! Thanks for stopping by my blog today. I hope you are having a great Friday!

15 years ago @ http://prendalestelle.... - 30 Day Journal · 0 replies · +1 points

That's a really cool idea. I'm visiting from New Friend Friday. You can see all my blogs via my top right sidebar in case you are interested here: http://GoodMorninBeautiful.blogspot.com

Nice to meet you! Jeannette

15 years ago @ The Professional Famil... - TAKING CARE OF YOU: Ca... · 0 replies · +1 points

I've been wanting to find a tool like that for a long time. My mom continues to belittle me because I don't have a career like she did. Honestly, I wish we'd have had a smaller house and at least had one of my parents home while I was growing up. I love being a stay at home mom but the stigma is horrible. Your blog is such an inspiration.

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