Often, when men cheat, it's not really about sex as it is about reinforcing their ego. It's nice to still feel attractive and wanted... especially by a younger woman.

Sex is not a game to me. It's instinctual. I can't approach it any other way. In addition, I wasn't raised that sex is dirty and a nude body should be covered and hidden away... or that a woman should not visibly enjoy her partner - and just service his needs foregoing your own.

Mortie, I appreciate your commitment to the site and your frequent questions and comments ;)

-Interracial Love Magazine

Ana,

Hi, thank you for your comment.

I think a lot of Black men get a mixed message about identity...especially from the cultural shift you mentioned. In addition, there was a major shift in the '90's to get more in touch with your African roots and heritage.

For them to compete, they have to infuse more an "urban flava" in to their approach.

My wife, being from Haiti, who relishes in poetry, art, and world music is appalled by street mentality, but does respect its influence throughout the world.

Perhaps a Black or South Asian person might be more sensitive to your problems, but this may not be enough consolation for so many other factors that are important to you in a relationship.

Thanks again.

- Interracial Love Magazine
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jiaelin,

I checked out your profile on Interracial Match. Loved it! (Even the thigh tattoo! - lol)

You give some excellent advice: "...Please don't expect any female to just go for you without knowing anything about you!.." So true!

lol @ "...Man up rejection is a part of life!.." Hey, are you trying to take my job!

Thank you for being a part of the growing community here on Interracial Love Magazine! We need more input here like this!

Especially the White guys!

Thanks so much!

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Hi Nile,

This is Jeffrey Baril of Source Blogger. How are you?

I think we all have come across some element of "elite snobbery" on the net. I am very careful not to come off as a "stalker" or "groupie" so there are no misunderstandings.

You are right, they do lose out on a lot of positive interaction...which is why the rest of us who value each visit/each comment/each tweet stay more connected to our audience.

We are the new generation.

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@ Alexander

Thank you for your lengthy comment. Let me address your response.

1) I've been very blessed to have met my wife. So, I have reached my "promised land" to some extent.

I hate to disappoint you, but I don't have any connections to the slave era nor do a lot of other Whites. I think you have to overcome that stereotype that Whites want to return to those days...at least for your sake.

2) Dating/Marrying Black women does not make you hipper (Although I think I'm pretty for a White guy in his 40's - pops his collar - lol), but it does add more credibility particularly on behalf of my readers here.

I think I would have to be more in tune to write about specific elements of Black culture to truly be an effective writer here, wouldn't? My world is actually surrounded mostly with Black people. I live in a home with 7 people (5 children) and I'm the only White person. Think about it.

3) I agree 100% that there a lot of reservations from Black families when he/she brings home a White person. I have personally encountered it. But, it can be overcome when they see you are loving, supportive, and have the best intentions.

Definitely not tying to sell the idea that Whites are welcome and Blacks are not.

4) Again, to allude to phrases that imply "All White People" is hysterical. Many Whites do not prescribe to these notions at all. So, far this is your second attempt to "lump" White folks back into the days of slave ownership and superiority.

But, some do. And I acknowledge that. Hopefully, you can learn to identify it.

5) White women are free to date whomever they choose. I have never dated one and probably never will. If you have a Twitter account, you would see a lot of tweets between Black men and women about this topic about "Becky" and Black men being critical of Black women.

6) I don't view it as being waste. They do. Whites seem to have this false sense of security to discuss whatever comes to mind without them realizing who I am and what I stand for. So, I have heard the comments. But, I've heard the same thing from Black men when they see me with a Black woman.

The white gene is a recessive gene. Because of its recessive nature, it becomes more aggressive...for survival. I've heard it all before. Not sure if I would classify that as ego.

But, to address your point, I don't think it bothers White men when the lesser-attractive White women are courted away. Even Black women stipulate "good Black men" when they refer to their men pursuing White women.

In closing, I didn't take your comment personal. Just as I hope you didn't take my reply to you to be that way.

I knew when I created the site that it would be controversial and have a mixed reaction. But, I think it was important enough to be said.

I hope you continue to find the content interesting here and promise me that you will maintain your energy and honesty in future comments. It's a great opportunity to learn a lot from each other.

- Interracial Love Magazine
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Mortie121,

A truly brilliant response. I actually learned a great deal.

Whenever you are ready to write for Interracial love Magazine, there is a spot waiting.

I think you have a lot to say and maybe just need the "right stage" to make it a reality.

I'd like to consider you a true friend to the site.

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April, thank you for your active participation on the site.

Our next article will be based on your comment "...When I found this sight I really expected to be uplifted and embraced, but you are taking your site to a lower level..."

Thank you for providing us the type of input that helps us write good content for our readers.

We dedicate the next article to you and will mention your names in the credits.

Thank you,

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RadioRebel,

Your points, although valid for a lot of material typically written online, was almost like preaching to the choir.

The entire article was written for (mainly) White men wishing to pursue a relationship with Black women.

I am fully aware that there are successful, educated Black women. I have been dating them for over 20 years.

One of the recurring themes from Interracial Love Magazine is stressing this point of Black women becoming more prominent in business, in the corporate world, and in higher-paying positions.

As a White guy who has worked and dated very heavily in the Black community over the years, I have seen an attempt from the " two-parent, middle class home, educated, can engage others in insightful conversation" side of the Black community paint this picture that the "have-nots" don't exist. Either you are in denial, or perhaps, you don't know that that element of Black society exists?

I have worked in the Black community as a Job Consultant dealing with the socioeconomic challenges of guiding Black and Hispanic women to migrate off of Welfare to find employment. I've seen the harsh living conditions and children going to school with nothing to eat for breakfast. I've dealt with Black men recently released from prison in their 30's who have never worked a day in their life that now have to.

This may surprise many who read this, but I was fortunate to work alongside these people. I learned a lot.

Perhaps you don't operate in that world, but I have; all over the country. I live in Philly, but recruit out of Delaware and Maryland. DC is blessed, but again, has it's poor neighborhoods as well.

As a White man, and I'll be 100% with you, a woman having a degree, a job, both parents and a car is not that really big of a deal to us. It's expected. Those elements are really only unique, selling points within your circles, not ours. There are millions of White women who have either the same credentials or better. Plus, that doesn't guarantee that an interracial relationship is going to be successful, does it?

It's only a beginning.

I thank you for your comment and look forward to speaking to you more on this subject.

Please don't take my response as being harsh. That is not my intention. I am just trying to open lines of communication — which is why I created Interracial Love Magazine.

What other site online even comes close?

Your friend,

Interracial Love Magazine

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Zabeth,

You bring up a good point. I'm almost tempted to write an article about it.

I can tell you, from experience, it just doesn't work, relationship wise. I'm not a good representative of the "typical White guy," and she would only wind up being disappointed.

You would think that a Black women would be more prone to White men who have dated Black women and understand them and how to coexist in a normal, happy relationship...but, they don't.

Many often seek the exact, total opposite. I'm not sure if they are looking to escape to a new culture and new encounters...or what?
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