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14 years ago @ Writing While Black - In Transition... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks sis! That really means a lot. And you can't quit. Ever. It gets better babe. :-)

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - The Non-Protector Types · 0 replies · +1 points

I cannot take your comments seriously. So I'm going to stop responding and "feeding the trolls" as they say.

However, I have preferences and I'm not single. And everyone on the face of the planet has preferences when it comes to choosing a significant other. Married people even have preferences. They used those preferences along with other factors to decide their spouse was the one to marry instead of the other people they've dated prior to meeting that person. So your lil' theory isn't factual. It's rather silly.

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - Beyoncé’s "4" · 0 replies · +1 points

I don't like the King attachment because it implies that the Queen is inferior. Women cannot be Kings due to their sex. Queen is not less than, which is ultimately what she's saying by choosing King over Queen. But it's not something I'm going to get riled up by. And you're not a fan of Bey's voice? Interesting. I've heard quite a few people say this and they usually get attacked for it by Bey stans. LOL

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - Beyoncé’s "4" · 0 replies · +1 points

LOL. I thought you LOVED Bey?

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - In Transition... · 0 replies · +2 points

Girl (?), you're about to make me tear up. Don't do that! I'm so sensitive these days. LOL! But thank you so much for your comment. I appreciate your support always. And I think you're right. Sometimes we are our own worst critics, ya know? Messages like yours makes me happy because inspiring others is what it's all about. :-)

@Arielle: Girl you know I will hit you up too. Thanks for the info and the words of advice. I'm reading that e-book you sent me too. Good stuff.

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - The Non-Protector Types · 0 replies · +1 points

Interesting commentary. I agree with you. Security and feeling protected is a must. You know in "A Belle in BK" Demetria has a whole chapter about this. I'd say it is the insecurities of both the person being ridiculed and the ones doling out the threats/insults. Unfortunately, skin tone plays a major role in how men are viewed. Just take note of how some dark skinned men will attempt to feminize a light skinned man, i.e. "pretty boy." For me, height and weight do play a role in it as well, but it's not the end all be all. I know some short guys that I would feel safe around. I'm also not measuring manhood by one's skin tone, height or weight as someone else suggested. I think it's important for women to have what they need in relationships. And we all have preferences. Nothing wrong with that.

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - The Non-Protector Types · 0 replies · +1 points

You know you could have condensed your three comments into one comment don't you? One quick correction- I never said manhood equals the characteristics I prefer. It's a preference. Period.

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - The Non-Protector Types · 0 replies · +2 points

LOL! Where did I say anything about wanting a thug? Please don't read into stuff that's not there. And you can always ask me. If you read through my archives you'll see I'm a pretty open person. Thanks for reading. :-)

P.S.- Protective types does not equal thugs.

14 years ago @ Writing While Black - Stop Coddling Him · 0 replies · +1 points

Wow. Thanks for sharing your story. And trust I know it's not Black sons/mothers. It happens in ALL races and ethnicities. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend or his mother about this one on one? Without being defensive or angry. Maybe they don't realize what they are doing. Just a thought.

15 years ago @ Writing While Black - The Faces of Domestic ... · 1 reply · 0 points

EXACTLY! I agree wholeheartedly with your comment above.

Here's the problem with the argument you're presenting about Rihanna: neither Chris or Rihanna have come out and said she hit him. There were no pictures taken of him sustaining injuries or bruises. But even if she did hit him, what would you propose happen to her? Why must she be held accountable as well? Really think about why you want to take the focus off of Chris Brown's actions and direct them to what Rihanna "must have done." Your argument is faulty, IMO, because it's basically a form of victim blaming. It takes away the accountability and focus of a woman being beaten senselessly by a man. I can't even begin to go further because at the core we have different beliefs on this incident and subject.

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