I'm a fan of Dave's Emergent Task Planner. I remember him introducing himself to me at the BlogHer party at my first SXSW in '07. I was all, "who's this guy?" He's super nice.

That was great, Cecily!

Great post, Tiffany. I like to hear about my peeps taking care of themselves and I'm super happy that you're so self-aware and attentive. Thanks for sharing.

I've been jonesing for another visit to Seattle for a while and I'm strongly considering scheduling around a Storm game. Perhaps when the Lynx visit. Too late for this year, but maybe next summer.

And, as a Michigan grad, I have to agree wholeheartedly with transition points #1 and #3.

You know, I've never used Automator. Might have to play around with it.

Dee may not be the first nor the last WNBA player to get a DUI, but she is most certainly the most popular and the most marketed by the league.

The sad reality is a LOT of people drive drunk ALL the time. Relatively few actually get caught. Hope Dee learns from this mistake and gets it together.

I hear a lot from people who do the kind of work you do about how working for yourself is so much better than working for the man. I think it's very self-aware and incredibly smart for you to recognize what kind of working situation works best for you personally and also to have put yourself in a position to find a job with a company that truly inspires and interests you. I very much hope this works out for you, Michelle. You deserve it.

(Been trying to post this comment for days! Technical difficulties. Also, what Matthew MacCarthy said.)

Ms Krista makes a good point about the taxes. Detroit's real estate market is all kinds of crazy; my sister (who's in the same position with her mortgage and wanting to move as you are) was just telling me how out of line her tax assessment is with market value of her house. So it is probably fair to say that the market value is lower than it was when you bought it and lower than the amount on your mortgage, but it may not be as bad. I presume you've already looked through zillow.com and other resources to see what comparable (non-foreclosed-on) homes in your area are selling for. Have you talked to your bank about refinancing, since you do have good credit?

To be with my probable-future-husband! -- :D

At this point, while the obvious answer seems to be "stay in your house" that is obviously not going to make you happy. I suspect you'll pull the trigger on moving sooner rather than later. So there's going to be a tradeoff. Only you can truly decide how much of a financial hit your heart and your credit can tolerate.

This is the time to make a plan and fucking work it. And this is where you need to have a courageous conversation and trust and lean on JT. Because if y'all are truly seriously going to move forward together, y'all could and should work through this together.

Can you move out there, shack up with him, and rent your house in the mean time? Even if you can't rent the house enough to cover the cost of the mortgage, can you save enough living with him to cover the rest (and maybe a property manager)? Can y'all both move somewhere else cheaper than LA or Atlanta? Can you say right now, I'm going to move *somewhere* in two years and in the mean time I'm going to pay the everloving shit out of this credit card debt or pay ahead on the mortgage. I don't know how much you are putting into your 401(k), but I'd back off anything more than 5% (or whatever your company matches, if they do) and keep the rest of that money.

It sounds like you're already trying to cut back where you can and still pay your bills and put money towards things that truly make you happy (like spending time with JT), so I don't know how much more room you have to make those adjustments. But I also understand wanting to handle your own business and not enter into a relationship with that kind of baggage. I'm still struggling with that and, hey, it turns out my gf has her own shit which is pretty much the opposite of what I thought it was. Just gotta work through it and have some faith and trust.

I don't know, I'm kind of brainstorming here and maybe not telling you anything you don't know or haven't considered. But you are in a position in your life where you can't let a calculator alone make this decision.

Way way way belated, but happy birthday and congratulations! :)

That is exactly how I felt about turning 30. I started getting really antsy right when I turned 28.