I don't know why I never saw this post before. Yes, absolutely, it works. The more patient and watery I am, the less fire I use, the better my relationships are. I have really owned the watery aspect of myself since having babies. Thank you for explaining the earth element so clearly. I never enjoyed getting stuck in the immovable "I am right!" earth. But I love her positive: the stop, drop and roll. That's exactly what my partner and I decided on when we first met. It's worked well for me to do it, not so effective when he does. I see why now: I am still recovering and learning to trust men (and him) so I discourage a strong fire. But I am tired, I do need a break and I crave the warmth. I'll meditate on it and keep practicing. Thank you for being so enlightening and practical again Kenya!
We all do. Us 'strong' able surviving women. We need to repair the broken trust and learn to receive.
My first thought was (right or wrong, you decide) that of course he would not want to pay for your kids' Xmas. He has kids. He looks after them so he knows that responsibility as well as the sweetness of making them happy. He does not need to be a good guy with yet more kids. What he wants is to make YOU happy by giving you things that will make you grateful, relaxed, sweet and even more receptive. You are not creating a blended family: he's in it for the fun and wants a woman who will have fun with him, me thinks.
Not a Tantra Master either but it does help with relationships!
I keep thinking about this and my last point is that open relationships are so controversial that most ppl are probably hearing is the voice in their own head screaming: "She wants me to share my partner with someone else!" They are not thinking: "Hum, if this tantric stuff works on an issue as deep and controversial as loving more than one person, it probably also works for deciding what car to buy, where to go on vacation or what house to live in together."
If you want to teach the conflict resolution techniques, you might want to go in baby steps and teach them on more publicly accepted subjects of marital arguments! lol!
Ok, I'm outta here. Going ice skating. Enjoy the rest of the day! Love you both and your teachings that make my every day life BE-TTER!!
It also occurs to me that as healers we often teach what we learned a few years ago and we have become masters at. You are masters at working together and at conflict resolution but it seems to me that you are still learning and creating your open relationship. It might be easier to teach conflict resolution techniques on subjects that are not so controversial. It took you and Carl years to get were you are at with your open relationship. Give your readers time to catch up!
Yes, what we are learning from you is invaluable Kenya. And yes I find you very relatable.
I completely agree and that is why a group of female healers are making a point to meet and DO things together in my little village. Sometimes we read a book, sometimes eat healthy food, sometimes go for a walk or cook or pick an angel card and share healing.
We have a sleep over and a hot tub evening planned for this winter.
Nothing earth shattering but everyone is positive, open to change and growth, does their best to own their stuff.
We even made our vision boards around the same dining table and talked about them together.
i also have a local friend who organizes "Spa Days" where healers go to a woman's house and look after her friends with massage, energy work etc
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