I was a nanny for a couple who had been childless and happy for 15 years and then had their own first child. They repetedly exclaimed how stunned they were at how different having their own child was to observing other peoples children. They were astonished at how self centered they had been , and how utterly unaware of that they were. They were in love with their child and saw him through those eyes. The whole world looks different when seen through the eyes of love, and the obligations of love create adults out of basic selfish human stock. So, whether one is meant to be single or not, being cheerfully obligated to love somehow in your life is a really significant part of becoming an adult. This seems to be what is missing in " Hollywood Love"... and well loved and trained children are a treasure, btw....emphasis on love and training

The endemic thinking " look out for #1 at all costs " has a direct connection to why there are baby nurses and nannys in Hoyylwood paid $5000 a week to take care of the nitty gritty, 24 hr. baby first, you later, parenting requirements. In the wise old fairy tales, witches were drop dead georgous, but could not love, why? because they served themselves first at all costs.