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1 day ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Sacred Casual Sex. · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi Sophia,

Whoa, okay I'm not sure that any given article speaks to the site per se - we are an open platform and invite writers to share their personal beliefs and experiences. We love having Damien's perspective here and believe that he writes wholeheartedly, clearly and honesty. So you are free to disagree but I'm not sure that it's productive to generalize us or him for expressing himself and sharing his point of view.


4 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - In "Defense" of Bikram... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thank you. I tried. We all should try.

4 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - In "Defense" of Bikram... · 0 replies · +1 points

Why do you attack someone who is clearly on your "side"? Instead of open discussion--particularly on Facebook--I found myself attacked repeatedly, and defended. Neither is the point. The point is education, as you say--not further polarization. I feel incredibly attacked here, and most in my situation would never speak on this subject again.

The amazing thing is, given the tenor of comments on my wall--that silence would make the attackers happy. What we need is a welcoming sense of dialogue with all allies and would-be allies.

4 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - In "Defense" of Bikram... · 2 replies · +3 points

Again, it's my mom, not my mom's friend. Given your and Livia's comments on your wall and tagging others and Livia's twisting of my words "women should feel comfortable reporting" is not what I said...I feel savaged. That said, I asked for it. I tried. I tried to bring together communities, instead of insisting on my right-ness.

I've invited both of you, and others, to offer a more informed take. But you just leave dozens of comments instead of one personal message (from you, I'd expect that, we used to be friends). Dozens of comments putting me in the corner of rape apologists? When this is an issue incredibly personal to me, and hopefully to all elephant readers--and all of us everywhere, if we can continue to get the good word out beyond the choir?

Yes, I insist, as should anyone in a democracy, on innocent until proven guilty. But in the next breath I remind our viewers that there is a lot of evidence coming forward, and the circle is closing on Bikram, and that we will join in condemning him if and when "alleged" turns to "convicted."

As for my offering a highly imperfect offering above, of course. I'm an idiot. I try.

Via Van Jones: "...it might be good for us all to keep in mind the great Teddy Roosevelt quote:
'It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.'
...Much respect to all of us who chase big dreams every day -- win or lose."

5 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - 30 Day Startup Video B... · 0 replies · +2 points

Thank you so much, Jeanne. I'm such a fan of you and your commitment and openness--and you're a damn great voice and editor. Big love to you and your family and your man and most of all your journey.

I'm glad to know you. And elephant is and was honored to feature that journey atop our site. I know it was a ton of work, I'm sure--thank you and I hope it helped you grow, too. ~ Way

6 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - In "Defense" of Bikram... · 1 reply · +2 points

In reply to an old friend who was deeply offended by my discussion, above: PS: it was my mom herself, not any "friend," if you listen to what I say.
Wow. I do not care to defend him. "Defense" is in quotes for a reason.

This feels like you're on the hunt--and not for open dialogue. In fact, you explicitly call for my view to be taken down. That is sad, considering we are/were friends and you know me and my intentions.

Right now, from a journalistic/moral pov, it's alleged. And that's important--for now. But it seems clear that he had sexual relations with students.

As I state, rape/sexual assault is the worst thing ever. Not sure where you're coming at here in terms of my flimsy pov on this--you and I go way back. There is nothing flimsy about acknowledging different points of view. It is my goal to bring different points of view into the fold of compassion, and ethics--and these men's groups that I refer to couldn't be farther off from the point of view I was coming from when I first reported this. I'd like to bring these communities together and focus on Equal Rights for All.

I make it clear that there was power differential, particularly if they were paying to complete a teacher training under his power. I certainly do not blame the women in question—if you watch what I say and listen without pre-judging, you'll hear me say that this is what these men's groups say, but I say that they may not have felt comfortable or safe or secure in protesting or reporting him at the time. I am, in fact, bringing up their lines of thought—that the women massaged him publicly, that he wasn't hiding anything, that it was consensual—and addressing those lines of thought.

As I say at the end, if convicted, he deserves the full weight of law, as well as moral law--condemnation.

"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." - Aristotle

There is no part of what I feel that excuses sexual assault or rape—which is a personal and passionate issue to me and far too many of my dearest friends.

I welcome contributions by yourself or X on elephant and am happy to feature them on the top of elephant--I am sure many have far more wisdom than I and our readers would appreciate that wisdom.

Please know that I care passionately, and talked this over with three important friends in my life, at least one of whom has been through hell and back on this terrible subject, and that they and myself hold "my" "point of view" on this to be that, as I say in the video, if convicted Bikram will and should suffer the full weight of the law, as well as moral law.

6 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Best Buddhist Books fo... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thank you for the recommendation!

6 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Best Buddhist Books fo... · 0 replies · +1 points

Nice, and thank you!

6 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Best Buddhist Books fo... · 0 replies · +1 points

Well, it's my list. If I ask you for your favorite movies, and you take the time to share them with me, I don't tell you your list is biased. That said, I took pains to share a wide selection of authors. But these are my faves.

6 days ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Bikram & Rape. · 0 replies · +1 points

Eloquently and compassionately said.