I was not able to find the previous posts you referred to earlier.  My system says that they have been removed or deleted.  Could you resend the links again?

Thank you so much,

Dale

Thank you for your quick response.  It is appreciated and yes, hard to hear.  She has said so many times over the past few months that she needs to feel control over her decisions and that my fears (yes fears!) get going and I tend to keep pushing her for answers and results that I want.  I am trying very hard to back off (not text, not call, not question – but to wait for her).  As an anxious and worrisome person, I find it very difficult to just wait.  My tendancy is to feel that if I am not in contact in someway, she will be distant.  The reality I am finding is that she pulls back further.  She does find this fear very unattractive  in a husand.  She feels it is ok for her best friend to have, but not her husband.

My wife and I have been married for 24 years. My wife and I were married young and she is 43. She is an outgoing bubbly person and full of life. Over the years she says she has become tired of trying to take me along for a fun filled life. I regret to say that she is right. I am dependable, a good provider, a great friend to her, but the excitement and passion has been missing for years. She is still in the house but has built up emotional walls where she says she is not able to let me get through anymore. Most of our friends tend to end up divorced. She is a psychologist with a lot of insight which seems to impact and tug at my fears. I pull back and might even be intimidated. I would love for her to fall in love with me again. I do love her so much. Any advice?