On the other hand, if I think about the airport situation, and if as a woman it was arranged to have a man drive me, I might have requested to either be with a woman or more than one escort in order to guard against being raped. but that is something that could be forced upon you; i have a hard time understanding how people cannot enjoy pleasant conversation for an hour and not trust themselves to keep it from going further. if christianity causes people to lose all control or totally distrust their own self-control -- seems like a religion harnessed by satan himself. ridiculous.

I would suggest thinking of people as individuals first rather than primarily as one gender or another. you miss out on a lot of enriching experiences by only being willing to have meaningful interactions with your own gender. plus you can (even if unintentionally) send a hurtful or demeaning message to the opposite gender by refusing to associate with that person. this policy of refusing to be alone with a person of the opposite gender seems more in line with muslim thinking than christian. both jesus and paul appear to have been willing to flout convention in order to experience fellowship with the opposite sex. I am very sorry for you and concerned for the health of the church.