"There is nothing wrong with liking what you like." I understand that completely. However, if I heard a white person say I don't date black people because I like what I like, then how many of us would be quick to call that person racist?
I guess that's the thing. He kept questioning me for so long that it felt that after a point it became less about curiousity and more about challenging me- trying to prove that what I was doing was nonsensical- as if I was just wrong for doing it.... maybe I am overthinking this whole thing.................................
Haha! I think you don't get it because you are in New York. I mean really who DO yall speak to up there?
Ewww "how do you like that meat?". Sorry I would have walked out on that comment.
Yeah I tried to be patient with him but it wore thin real quick because some conversations I just don't feel I should have to have. I want to be with someone who just understands. When I date a guy, I already have to explain this is why I feel XYZ because I am a woman. Now on top of that I have to explain that I feel ABC way because I'm black too? Too much!
I wasn't tripping off the fact that he asked. What annoyed me was that apparently my explanation wasn't good enough because he kept badgering me about it . I don't want to have to explain myself for hours on end everytime he discovers a part of my culture that is alien to him. Accept it as how we are and move on. I don't ask him why some of his ppl can't seem to catch the beat if I threw it at them. (Ok maybe I'm slightly wrong for that comment but that's how I feel).
LOL- I'm getting ready to write about it now. Sphinx & Lioness won't get off my back about it. Haha.
Thanks Danielle. I'll keep you posted.;)
My mom is supportive of any man that has a job so I am not worried about her- lol. I'm more so worried about my dad and my extended family finding out. I know we only went on one date and it's nothing serious but I can hear them talking now. They already say I try to "act white" and that I've forgotten where I come from. They'd be my biggest hurdle if we get that far into the race. I'm not even going to THINK about the sex right now. I am barely comfortable being seen in public with him.
I thought the same thing: What would we have in common?But what I realized is that it's not necessarily the things we have in common that's important but just finding someone who can appreciate a different point of view or who is willing to experience new things. I am still apprehensive about the future. You know what if I have one of THOSE days at work? How's he going to understand? But we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
LOL- Thanx for stopping by Jimmy. Your site is hilarious! Welcome to the PMS Family.
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