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12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 0 replies · +1 points

You purchase a pass to go to restaurants in a neighborhood. Each spot has a few dishes you can taste. So basically, a bar crawl with food (and drink).

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 0 replies · +7 points

My points still stand.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 0 replies · +1 points

My thinking is that women (and people), who frequent places with piss poor customer service will be the same who are OK that the books at their kids schools are outdated.

I remember taking a 'frociate' to Target and he was amazed at what he saw. The trick is to be the type of man who can transition a couple glances as you pass by into a conversation, exchange of information, etc. It can be done but it's not exactly easy.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 0 replies · +12 points

Gotcha.

Gold digging? Eh. Security seeking is more like it. Why would any woman want to link herself to a man who can't take care of himself? And I know things happen. People lose jobs, cars die, etc. I get that. But if everything in a man's life is shaky, he may want to focus on getting his ducks in order before getting his peen moist. Maybe. I don't know. I've never been a man.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 4 replies · +2 points

"Man, if I knew quality would be this hard to find in my early 30's, i promise I would done a few things differently..Oh well! lol"

Tell these folks!!!!

Quality women?
Target (not in DC or right over the bridge in VA)
Wegmans (not the one in Largo though)
Dish crawls in and around H Street (not to be confused with BAR CRAWLS)
Bar-b-ques
Bike trails
Movies on Sunday mornings
Total Wines (the one in Laurel)

I am trying to think of places where women will be along. I would suggest online dating but I think men gloss over the stuff women write and focus solely on the pictures. Don't get me wrong, physical attractiveness is important. But why bother if the stuff she wrote tells you that you have NOTHING in common. I should start throwing match-maker events. Yes. This needs to happen. It would be sobering for a lot of people.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 0 replies · +19 points

I love how you throw age and race into this. I have friends of different ages and races. The only way race even plays into this is that non-Black men seem to tire of extended adolescence at a younger age than Black men. Non-Black men usually feel they aren't successful as men if they don't have a family or at least a wife lined up by 30. The dirty little secret that men don't usually discuss on blogs is that, extended adolescence games get old. They want to come home to someone who they can consistently trust to be there. Or so I've heard.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 2 replies · +11 points

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Let me be clear.

I am a proponent of COMPLEMENTARY COMPANIONSHIP.

I actually do wait on my guy to do stuff and he waits on me to do stuff. But I am a very traditional woman. And when I date, I DO wait on the man to rise to the occasion. If he doesn't, I move on--which is easy since I don't time my life and body to every man who I share a few hours with. *shrug*

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 1 reply · +17 points

I didn't grow up around tender men. But it took me telling my daddy a couple of stories for him to straight up tell me that men can be more emotional than women and they will express that emotion in self-esteem killing ways.

The unhappy man says will tell you that you look fat and no man will ever want you. The happy man will tell you that you should wear the green dress because it shows off your legs. Then he'll call you on Saturday morning and invite you to go hiking with him. See the difference?

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 7 replies · +14 points

Men who have loads of strange women running through their homes are begging to be robbed. Plain and simple. Not to mention, with the technology we have, she can walk through and video where all your nice things are located and give cousin Ray-Ray n'em the lay of the land for when they rob you. (Do you know how easy it is to get someone's alarm code?) This happens and men will blame the neighborhood when it's really that they let the wrong woman into their homes.

There comes a time in a man's life where maturity and character outweigh easy snatch. This maturity and character is hard to cultivate and usually only comes when a man is truly happy with himself and his life.

And while it's easy for a man to get women (and an attractive woman to have suitors by the dozen), getting quality (and I don't mean the degreed and attractive), is a lot harder.

12 years ago @ Single Black Male - What Happened to First... · 13 replies · +30 points

I would add that when men can't take women anywhere (weak finances, limited exposure, etc.), they will turn it on the women and say we want to much. And don't let him not be able to even pull the type of women he really wants? He will denigrate anything with a vagina. This usually comes in the form of trying to make her fearful of never getting married. Newsflash: Being married is not the end all be all for a whole lot of women. In doing so, these men expose themselves as a weak men who spends more time tearing others down than building themselves up. Their bitterness and frustration seeps out in everything they say and do. All subterfuge everything. It's sad.

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