Sally, my son has two very active grandfathers -- and I mentioned in this post that my dad babysits every single week. It's worth noting Tavi's got two more grandfathers than I had growing up. Both of my parents' fathers were dead by the time I was born. Having heterosexual grandparents certainly isn't a guarantee grandfathers will be around.

Stick your DILF pix in the flickr pool: http://www.flickr.com/groups/offbeatmama/pool/
If you could include some of what makes him so awesome in the caption, that'd be great!

I mentioned this in a prior comment, but since I feature hottie MILFs (gay and straight) on the site almost every day, I don't see the DILFs posts as in any way exclusive of gay mamas. If you've got wonderful photos of your partner, stick 'em in the flickr pool! :D
http://www.flickr.com/groups/offbeatmama/pool/

Include a little in the caption about what makes your MILF so great. :)

YES! Which is to say ... BOTH! :)

I think Danger would be an AWESOME middle name for a girl!

Maybe these? http://www.endless.com/Nine-West-Womens-Rasselas-...

Thanks so much to everyone for chiming in! I really appreciate the dialog on this issue.

So first, as for the whole heteronormative MILFs vs. DILFs thing, I feature MILFs of all orientations on the site pretty much every day! I mean helloooooo: http://offbeatmama.com/2010/03/hawaii-maternity-p... It's sort of like how I have an Offbeat Grooms section on OBB and not a Lesbian Brides section. The Lesbians are included all over the place, so I don't really stick them in their own special category. Same with hot mamas on OBM.

As far as the dirty connotation of the "F" in DILF, think of it as sort of like Wedding Porn: a little provocative, a little trashy, and a little bit of reclamation. Come to think of it, if OBB had launched with as many readers as OBM launched with, I'm sure the "Wedding Porn" name would have met with a LOT of resistance!

For those of you who feel squeamish about the F, or think that it perhaps winks more directly at adultery than you'd like to think about, I love the idea of the F standing for FRIEND. Dads I'd like to FRIEND. Yes, that's exactly it!

So, while the proof is in the pudding (with 95% of you in the "I love it" category) I really appreciate each of you taking the time to share your thoughts with me on the issue. Offbeat Mama is still very much finding its voice (I suppose mirroring my own progress as I find my own voice and identity as a mother) and while I'm clear the site is ultimately mine to do with as I please (insert evil cackling here) I love the discussions I can have with y'all about how things are going.

This is all to say .... THANK YOU!!!

As I mention in the post, I tried to get a full range of prices -- everything from fifty-something (how much do I love those red peep toes!) to six hundred something.

Olivia, you took the words right out of my mouth!

"Friend" I LOVE THAT!