I have a brother inlaw that refuses to allow his wife (my sister) to coach high school boys cross country team. He feels there will be to much overwhelming temptation for her. He doesn't like the way the boys look at her. He has asked me before why I would allow my wife to attend business trips with only males. I looked at him increduously and said "Allow!?!?! Allow?!?! Are you serious? If I can't trust my wife... then who could I trust?

The comments about "The Rules" in the bylaws of some of these churches are disheartening. The one about sitting in the parking lot until another person comes to work, so you're not alone with someone in the office?? Not having lunch, conversations, riding in a car - with a person of the opposite sex? Huh?

My wife regularly has lunches with male, female coworkers - one on one. It doesn't bother me in the least. I am a stay at home Dad that meets up with other Mom's for play dates for our kids. We just don't have time in our lives for outside affairs. We just don't have time to NOT trust each other.

We set aside time to talk every evening before bed and every morning over breakfast. Attraction to other people have come up in our conversations before. Will temptations present themselves - definitely. Will temptations be acted upon - I hope not. You have to put your trust in your spouse and in God.