Now with all that said. It's real simple. Just treat people in general the way you want to be treated and don't let anyone treat you any kind of way. You avoid hurting others and getting hurt. It's hard to put in practice and you can't control the actions of others, but it's easier to look at yourself if you know you didn't disrespect someone even though they have wronged you. And treat yourself just as well as you treat others, so that you can walk away from being treated like crap or a no good situation.

Hey Shaun, I agree about many of the things you say and through all of this I know many good men who have the hardest time with women in Atlanta. I meet the women you talk about everyday. The thing is my closest friends who are men who are single or have a girlfriend and are not married, can tell the same story. We wonder how these women keep saying there are no good men available when we have 5 or six single friends who are guys who keep getting looked over when we treat women with respect and don't pressure them to do things they say they don't won't. We meet women who give us vague reason why they can't be in relationships with us and then because we have become true friends with these women, we watch them get dogged out by men who don't care about them. We talk to them and listen to them say things like they have a great friend who's caring and understanding and is a great catch and in the same conversation talk about the dude that they are physical with and how they will cut it off when things get serious with the great guy. I have asked many women how come they think that's possible. How do they even think it's fair to a great guy. The women doing that aren't horrible women, they just have gotten something mixed up. How come they think that God will allow that good man to be treated like that? I ask them how many times have they done this in the past and ask how did it work out. Well of course it never worked out because they are doing the same thing again.

Atlanta is a strange place for good men. As much as the ratio seems to favor men in this city. It does not favor a man with a good heart. I have numerous situations that I could type about from my frustrations and the frustrations of friends. I'm not a player and never have been. I have friends that aren't players and don't know how to be players. They know how to treat women with respect and courtesy. I've watched them chase after women who seem like a great catch and seem like they know what they want and what they deserve and then they dog this poor guy who's sincerity keeps that guy looking after her when she's troubled or needs help. She doesn't call the guy that she showers her affections on. She calls the guy who has been there for her through thick and thin. The guy she says never makes her feel like she's a terrible person no matter what she does. The guy who has never judge her through it all. What's crazy is most of these women never even know what they missed. Even after he becomes involved with another woman or moves on. They can't see what they had. I don't normally complain too much about this. I know that I'll meet that one woman who deserves the way I treat a woman.

See the thing is these women with all these great jobs and benefits and degrees are often very needy and that affects how they treat men in general. I would say they don't know how to treat a respectful man, but that's not true. They just choose to do whatever they want, because they think that because they are a woman, they can do and say whatever to a man and not be accountable for their actions. They do whatever they want because some guys have let them get away with any and everything. Some women don't even see a man as a person. I've talked to many who feel this way. They believe that men have no feelings just because he's a man. They think a man who does have feelings is weak and will let them walk over him, and when he does walk away from mistreatment, they throw out insults like, just like a man, always walking away from problems.

There are over 300 million people in the U.S. So this misconception that certain things are done by men and that men are the one's that do wrong and are heartless troubles me. There are many many people doing wrong and it's not about the sex of the person. A human is a human and women lie, cheat, steal, kill, curse, fight, envy and betray just like a man. Just as often as men do women do wrong. Education level, employment and income don't change a person's moral compass. The thing is in recent years, we have come to find out that sex is not the determining factor in intellect and that men or women have the same capacity for intelligent thought. Our physical differences on the other hand though seems to carry a disproportionate role in how we treat each other. What I'm saying is this mistreatment knows no gender.