I read almost daily...but almost always a lurker... twitter: @withlovechelli

Thanks for the ego boost, Linc! This isn't said often enough. Much appreciated!

Standing 5'10, I wear high heels and high buns! I love and embrace my height, but I can honestly say it took me a loooong time to get here. It's funny how the things that make you stand out during adolescence as different and awkward are the exact things that make you beautiful and "exotic" when you're older.

Have I found guys tended to shy away from me because of my height, ABSOLUTELY. However, I have often noticed that the guys that are attracted to me BECAUSE of my height and NOT in spite of my height, generally tend to have more of the personality traits that I find attractive.

Any young lady wrapping her self esteem around the ever changing concept of what a man/other people find attractive will always end up with the short end of the stick. At the end of the day, the only way to really build confidence is to truly LOVE what God gave you, take care of yourself (flaws and all) and be comfortable in your own skin. Be the best you, you can be and no one can really ask for anything more.

"Don’t be afraid to get creative because I guarantee you that if she truly TRUSTS YOU and cares for you, she will want to explore herself with you just as much as you do."

That pretty much sums this all up in a nut shell!

Happy Belated Bday!

Wrote my comment below before reading this..

I don't agree, becoming emotionally detached in one's dating life isn't nearly the same as being emotionally detached from life or deserving of the label "sociopath". Just as Linc stated up top, emotional detachment usually results from the seemingly endless routine of looking for Mr/Mrs. Right. Just like anything else, if you do it long enough autopilot (emotional detachment) just kicks in.

You can be so emotionally detached ...you don't even know it ...until you're single again, thinking "Damn, what happened?"... *not speaking from personal experience at all*

This has to be one of the funniest stories I've ever heard in my life...I literally was crying...smh now my side hurts LMAO!