Hi there Kara.... it was amazing to read your article! .. and although I am in my 40's & my 2 teens are much older than your son, there are so many similarities between yours & my lives, or at least from what you have written about.

Life is so much better for me now too.. but it has been a very challenging road, which still has it's hurdles, simply because of the choices I made early on.. being honest can hurt so much & in some ways is harder to get over than a broken relationship, when you see your kids suffering because of your own bad choices.. I am talking about the ripple effect here..

... hindsight is a wonderful thing!

Thank you for writing, I felt almost every one of your words xo

I truly enjoy your honest & insightful posts Ben. I have only just tonight found your blog & I have been reading it for hours!

I know where my uneasiness has come from with regards to the 'c' word.. it stems from being repeatedly referred to as one, in a frightening & nasty way, by someone who would then turn around and say 'I love you'.

I haven't heard it said for some years now.. & I wasn't offended reading what you had to say about it just now.

I love your work :)
Jan