Thank you SO much Lori! I truly appreciate this. I advised my cousin of your response and he will send you an email. It breaks my heart of what's happening in their marriage. I too find it so hard to say anything because he is a man and I don't want to say the wrong thing.

Good morning Lori! I just love your blog posts. My cousin wanted me to ask you on what he should do in regards to his marriage and I thought I reach out to you on here.

My cousin and his wife has been married for 4 years. However, lately, it seems as if my cousin's wife does not want to be married anymore. They are currently separated. She 'left' him in March. She went out to Baltimore twice. She is currently back in Detroit where they both reside and she keeps talking about moving to Baltimore permanently. My cousin doesn't know what to do. Although they celebrate their 4th wedding anniversary last week, they are still separated. According to my cousin, his wife talks consistently to another male friend who she has history with. She also confides in her single friend who resides in Baltimore- She lives with her boyfriend of 10 years. My cousin's wife's plan is to move to Baltimore within the next 6 months.

My cousin just doesn't know what to do. He tried bringing up going to marriage counseling, however, his wife does not want to go. Yet, they tried counseling with her cousin before who actually married them. His advise to my cousin was to give her space and talk to her differently. My cousin also expressed that her parents are encouraging his wife to stay away from him. Not once have they told them that they need to get back together. I know that I am not with my cousin 24 hours a day, but he loves this woman deeply and dearly. He wants to help their marriage grow, however, he doesn't know what to do or to believe anymore. It is like he is starting to lose faith. His wife told him that she doesn't know if she wants to be married anymore. However, I am confused, because she currently lives with my cousin. Yet, she doesn't want to claim him as her husband.

What do you advise, Lori? I appreciate any advice that you may have. Also, he noticed that his wife has put several locks throughout her cell phone this year. I am in fear of my cousin's life because he has multiple breakdowns every single week. I've been married for only 2 years and I do not feel that I have a place to advise since I am still newly married. Thank you for your time Lori!!! Have a blessed day!