Wonderful post, Lori! What an awesome example this woman is to young women.

Hi Lori,

I'll write a response to this soon and link back. In the meantime, I will say this: discipline is not defined first and foremost as punishment. From dictionary.com, here are the five definitions given; only one has to do with a punishment:

1. Training to act in accordance with rules; drill: military discipline.

2.activity, exercise, or a regimen that develops or improves a skill; training: A daily stint at the typewriter is excellent discipline for a writer.

3.punishment inflicted by way of correction and training.

4.the rigor or training effect of experience, adversity, etc.: the harsh discipline of poverty.

5.behavior in in accord with rules of conduct; behavior and order maintained by training and control: good discipline in an army.

Discipline - which actually isn't the word I used in my post about the incident - is allowing natural consequences to correct and train someone. Not only is it morally-licit for a man to use consequences to correct and train his wife and children so that order is maintained, but it is actually morally-required of him to do so. In 1 Timothy 3, we learn that overseers and deacons are to be "above reproach". And what is above reproach? It is managing his own family well. Not all men are called to be deacons, but we should all be striving toward being "above reproach".

Beautiful post, Lori. I'm going to use it for this evening's devotions with my daughters.

Thanks for the link-back, Lori!

Great post, Lori! Many of us did not have older women to mentor us on the importance of being loving, respectful, submitted wives. That is why blogs like yours are so important for the next generation of young women. Marriage is under assault far worse than when you and I were young, so it's even more important than ever that young women are mentored on being good wives.

Thanks for linking to my post, Lori! I hope others find my humble musings of some small use.

She then told me that if they are discussing something and she feels that Peter is wrong, she just lets it go because she said it is no big deal to her. She doesn't insist on being understood or being right....You can tell she respects him by her body language towards him. She smiles at him frequently. She looks into his eyes when he talks. She never interrupts him when he is speaking. She gives him honor.

It is so hard for modern women to let things go. We are taught to value our individualism above all else; yet when we marry, we are to become one flesh with our husbands, so our individualism, our feeling that it is our right to be heard and understood, should be sublimated.

Thank you for the reminder about showing honor. I needed to be reminded of that today.

I like the God's promises box idea a lot! I'm going to give that a try.

One suggestion I have is to have the children practice their memory verses in the car while we are driving places. They inadvertently end up learning one another's verses, too, just from hearing them so often.