I too am a the mom of a "Quirky Kid" and a NT kid. I dread next years middle school graduation, thinking about how wonderful my older son's celebration was with so many friends and families, all happy and supporting one another. By contrast I know that next years celebration will just be our family alone, and the ceremony itself will be fraught with difficult emotions as I sit and watch not just my beautiful boy graduate, but have to see the faces of all those other boys who were unkind and mean. Families will be there who had the opportunity to reach out but didn't. Friends I thought I could count on, but disappeared after their kids turned on my son. My best friend is included in this group, who I last remember telling me "M. doesn't understand his Asperger behaviors and doesn't want him to call of see him anymore". before she herself disappeared two years ago. I know there are supportive communities out there who would rally around a family with disabilities, who would see this as a teachable moment of how to understand and be compassionate, just not my community.