I never felt it was acceptable to "just be a wife and mom." It was always expected that I do more. I was miserable working and going to school after we had our first son. Hubby and I both said, "Enough," and I began staying home (and quit crying every morning when I had to leave my son). 10yrs of marriage and four boys later I try my best to encourage other moms and wives in the journey. I had no idea how to run a household when I got married (at 19) and had no one to teach me. I think those skills would have been more useful than all the silly philosophy classes and sociology classes I sat through to earn my Sec Ed teaching degree.