I'm so sad about it. And I'm completely with you on erring on the victim's side. Why potentially violate them again by not believing their story?

When we went to college I found out my best friend had molested her. It's a long story but it turned out her grandfather who was a very strict, religious man had molested her and most of her siblings and cousins. He was certainly not the type of guy would expect to be capable of such atrocities but that didn't matter. He'd done it.

I feel so sad that Bill Cosby was one of those guys. The Cosby show was one of my favorites growing up. Good, wholesome, funny. And now it's all tarnished. If he did what these women say he did (and with so many women coming forward I am certainly inclined to believe them!) he was and is a monster. So sad.

I think propping up adoption when you are adopted is necessary when you are young because acknowledging it's something other than good some how feels like your life is a lie. I remember feeling personally offended when I would hear stories of adoption gone wrong. Some times it still does.

I am not going to pretend to know what it's like to be raised by parents of a different race but I do know what my feelings are like and I didn't look that different from my parents. It's like there is a hole in your life. Even if you don't acknowledge the gaping hole it's still there.

A couple years ago I was able to connect with my biological mom. (She's actually coming to see me tonight!) I cannot explain the relief I felt once that hole was filled. I kept telling my husband, "I finally feel whole. I finally know who I am."

Good luck with your journey and thank you so much for sharing.