Thank you so much!Sorry I am just now seeing this comment. Singles ministry can be tough, but very rewarding!

YOU ARE AWESOME!!

Having been the Singles Director of my church & involved in Singles Ministry for 16 yrs., this subject is fresh on my heart daily! If I may, I have just a couple of things to add to your amazing list.

1. Law of Attraction-be the person you wish to attract. If you want to have a praying spouse, do you practice this yourself? If your desire is to do missions, how many trips have you either taken or contributed to? Want someone that can help you pilot satellite churches? How many have you supported? Catch the drift? I want someone that is spiritually mature enough to be the priest of the home. This example is lead in relationships, communication skills, leadership development, health/nutrition, community support, etc. I have to personally sharpen my skills in ALL those areas as well. I realize iron sharpens iron and in my weaknesses, a spouse may be strong. Still......We must be the change the world needs to see & set the example for the harvest that is coming.

2. Integrity, discretion, character- A person can be the greatest prayer warrior reaching heaven, have the community eating out of their hands, and travel the world, but if someone can't come to them in confidence, what is the use? People have drama. If you are a drama queen/king, this will not effectively minister to the body of Christ. A person has to know when to minimize or diffuse situations while efficiently solving the problem. Can they tell you things and know they can trust you with it? Or.....are those things told behind closed doors being shouted from the roof tops?

The thing I have experienced the worst in church is integrity or the lack of it. Living a double standard will always find you out. Is your potential mate the same person at home as they are at church? Being in ministry is like living in a glass house and they have to be prepared to face that! I have heroes of faith that say, embarrass sin or sin will embarrass you!

3. 5 Love Languages and 5 Love Languages of Apology----You could marry Mr. / Mrs. Universal Church and have the worst relationship ever! Know how to communicate your partners love language instead of imposing yours onto them. Arguments will happen, not only in your relationship, but in the church, and knowing the proper skill of apologizing will be a Godsend!

I appreciate your input and wisdom tremendously!
Geneva

1. leadership is influence & everything rises & falls with leadership
2. no--those people are still a leader, but with poor character, morals & values. hitler was a leader!
3. definitely in a huge way & once you learn about true servant leadership, you will readily recognize the diff.
4. babies aren't born leaders. they are born dependent on everyone & learn independence. we are all capable of becoming a leader....that's why we call it "leadership development" i believe some have stronger abilities than others to lead....consider the personality types...
5. generally people tend to believe the choleric, dominant, or type 'A' is more suited. they can have ambition / drive, but terrible people skills. other personality types may shrink from decisions, but love people! once you determine your personality, you can develop even those areas of weakness. applied with dreams/purpose/passion, any one can change & lead.
6. yes, usually more than they know or recognize.
7. it's a choice--others can "influence" as in my #1 answer and be the catalyst for them to develop into a leader. i was a self-proclaimed "follower" all my life until someone (a Christian ed director at my church) believed in me. i chose to change and make that choice daily.

thanks ron! great questions!
geneva

You are brilliant! There are no limits to how far you will go!