See, part of me understands the need to be a little selfish in the interest of self-care. Part of me understands that not everyone can be one-hundred percent charitable and giving of every piece of themselves, and sometimes, people need to take care of themselves first, so they can then go on to continue to take care of others. Part of me understands that sometimes it's just not possible for someone to be charitable, for whatever reason.

However, another part of me thinks that "if you're nice to someone, then they'll just walk all over you because you showed them that all they have to do is ask and you'll give it to them!" is bullshit 99.9% of the time. (I do admit, there are people out there who would be lazy and mooch off of a kind person, but that's not going to stop me from being kind to others and giving what I can when I can, and the idea that we should stop being charitable to others who need and deserve it simply because some people can and will take advantage of you for it is selfish nonsense.)

On the other hand, being kind and charitable to people with the expectation that you'll get something out of it is also selfish as hell. Sometimes, you need to be charitable because it's the right thing to do, not because you'll get something out of it.