I don't know how old your kids are, but I went thru this referee stage with my oldest (15). And I am hoping that i will remember the lessons I learned for my other 2 when the time comes.

Daddy and daughter need to form their OWN relationship. Daddy has to learn to deal with the same crap you deal with. So when kids and DH butt heads>>> Stay out of it. Kind of like forcing them to face eachother on their own feet, without involving u.

He's an adult. Parenting is hard stuff. Why should he get out of sorting thru stuff like that?

My new auto response is "Talk to your Daddy." And as hard as it is, I keep my nose out of it. They still try to DRAG me in, but I stand firm. I just hold up my hand. "That is between you 2" I say, and act as if whichever way it goes, I DON'T CARE."

So far.......so good.

I appreciate you post Amber. Cause you can hear all the whining on any news channel out there. No one wants to hear they are lazy. But Truth is 1,000"s of people are.

I am sorry if your broke and have no money for the things you need or want, But neither do we.
If Employers and Employee's would work together for the growth of the company they work for, China wouldn't own us.

Everyone has sick kids, and other family emergencies. We do. We have 3 kids. We understand.
We have the ability and the demand to diversify. But can't because there is no one we can "count on" to actually show up to work. That's a fact jack. Period.
BTW, we don't have health insurance and haven't had a Vacation in 6 years.
My husband IS the man in that song. For 12 years now, he works from 6am to about 9pm, and only comes home 3 nights a week. He is exhausted.
We pay our payroll before paying ANY bills ( and we have 2 sets)
2 mortgages, 2 phone bills, 2 water bills, 2 electric bills, 1 gas bill ( cause I use wood heat) and not to mention the GAS we purchase! We even put gas in our employees cars to "help them out" sometimes.
There are people who receive unemployment who really need it, and receive it under the correct circumstances. And there are those out there with Extraordinary lives, and families that make working long hard hours unrealistic
But for all those people who CAN work, but won't and then whine cause they have no money or they aren't paid enough, THEY can suck it

We all know the system is flawed, and we all also know that there are some lazy MF'ers out there.
We have been dealing with this for years. Way before the Economy tanked
Our employees have some control over their wages. They are paid a percentage of what they produce (upholstery work, earning about 2-4 hundred per piece.) And we offer them the opportunity to work longer hours 3 days a week. But without fail they call in hungover on Monday, and they have family emergencies EVRY WEEK! That is no exaggeration. We have been left empty handed for the last 4 Mondays in a row.

We currently pay a woman unemployment who worked for us for less than 6 months. She claimed it was a hostile work environment. HELL YEAH IT WAS HOSTILE! She wouldn't do her fucking job! She got fired! They awarded her the $, and we are left looking to hire again, but probably will take care of it ourselves. In order to not waste 2 months training someone who will just decide that working is too much trouble, and leave

That made me all warm and fuzzy inside. Blackberries forever. Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

I am just glad to know I am not the only one with a Blackberry.

I have been both. While being a sahm without working from home, DOES have it's advantages. There is something to say about having that feeling of validation that comes from accomplishing things outside of the home and your children. And going years without that, can be depressing for some. It wears on your self image after a while.

I work from home now, so I have the best of both worlds. But I remember staying home for the kids. It wasn't always the MOM party it was cracked up to be.

To each their own.