Good words! I love the concept of sharing wisdom and not just solutions. As a mom of two grown sons, that really resonates with me. As to any advice I'd add? Here's 3 things: 1) We told the boys that they're doing chores not just to help the family, but that some day they're be in charge of their own place and they'd need to know how to take care of a home and possibly be responsible for a family. Sometimes, it would be tough sledding to get them on board, but eventually it paid off. Our daughters in law have told us that they're VERY thankful for our *Husband 101 Training*, as we called it. :) 2) If the boys wanted to do something or go somewhere as teens, our principle was "Make it easy for me to say yes". That way, they'd do the work of planning and tell us who they'd be with, how much it would cost, if they'd need a ride and when, etc. They knew our values and learned to plan activities that would align accordingly. And, it's so much fun to say YES to your kids...they could see that we enjoyed saying yes...and it became a really big part of our lives. 3) Learn to relate to your older kids, especially boys as brothers in Christ. Let them pray FOR you or lead worship songs if that's their thing... or give a devotional. Could be informally while camping or regularly at the dinner table. Modeling humility and a culture of learning is huge for boys and it creates a healthy vulnerability. One last thing... I remember my hubby teaching the boys to "avert their eyes" with sexy TV commercials came on during football games. They made it a game of their own to see who could dive for the remote first and change the channel. Rich times together then...reaping the joy of grandparenting now. It truly is ...grand! :)