I am curious as to why all of these "reasons" are placing the blame on the person who leaves. Burn out can come because the church has extreme expectations of people to volunteer time and energy and punish them when they try to limit their involvement. Injury is not always at the hands of their "peer group" in the congregation - usually it's at the hands of the pastors or leadership. Most people aren't that affected by the opinions of others in the congregation - but when the pastor/leadership injures them, that's another story. Mistakes - People don't "perceive" that they will not receive grace - they KNOW it. Because they have observed it in the church's response to others' "mistakes." Lack of connection - this one blatantly blames the person by insinuating that they didn't try hard enough. In many church's if you don't have the right last name, live in the right neighborhood, make the right amount of money, give the right amount of money, or weren't born and raised there, no matter how hard you try, you are not going to "connect" because you simply aren't good enough. I think I will be writing a post on my blog about the disappointing reasons people can't stay in your church. Look for it soon at whenchurchhurts.wordpress.com.