It's definitely possible! I used to be the type who couldn't let things go - if I thought someone was wrong, it would bug the living hell out of me, quite literally when I think about it. I couldn't respect someone if I thought they believed something stupid and it would eat at me.

I wasn't a Christian then. I didn't have that anchor, so all these superficial opinions were what I clung to - and indeed, what most people cling to, Christian or not. Now I realise that I don't know everything (lol!) and although I can speak with conviction, that doesn't mean I will always be right, and I can accept that.

One divorce, several years of celibacy, and a conversion later, my man and I have not had a single argument in 18 months together. Given that both of us are divorced, opinionated, and difficult for others to deal with, this is too amazing to be something 'we' did. I still have my issues - chief among them feeling like I am not capable of a successful relationship - and am still learning to lean on God in those times, but in the meantime, I do know that low-conflict relationships/marriages are possible.