The husband does not help the wife. It is all the husband's work. The wife then helps the husband with his work. Even if she is an excellent homemaker and mother, if she is not doing what she does in support of the husband she is not being a Christian wife. Christian marriage is a reflection of the Gospel of Christ. A wife who is is a good homemaker and mother, but is not as a helper to the husband is like a good person who is not a Christian. It might make a nice picture, but it is not God's will which is the foundation of Christian ethics. The key is in the relationship, not the work. Christians obey Christ and wives obey husbands. "If you love me you will obey my commands."