I would love a Tarot draw!
Man, I feel Jaya's piece so much. I'm applying to grad school and the ethnicity section is giving me a mini existential crisis. My dad's white and my mom's latina, and I'm afraid that if I check "yes" to the "are you of hispanic/latino ancestry?" question, they'll see my super German last name and think I'm lying. They probably don't even care, but ugh. And there's a part of me that recognizes that it's a privilege to be able to pass as a vaguely ethnic European white person, but then if I roll with that it feels like I'm slapping my mother's family in the face. I don't even know, you guys. *throws self away*
Also me, if you're not Taroted out!
I'm pretty new to Fallen London and spend most of my time catching massive quantities of rats-- send me a calling card anyway! I'm Lily_powers.
Seconding the request for specific papers! I have no problem at all with the idea that evolution has shaped human behavior, but it was my impression that evolutionary psychology is a very new field that's still figuring out its methods. Happy to be proven wrong!
I wonder if this is partially because of the explosion of social media? You're supposed to package all of your (formerly) private life moments so that they're palatable for mass consumption. Suddenly what you ate for breakfast becomes the business of your extended family, your coworkers, that dude who sat behind you in 9th grade AP English, etc. No wonder everything becomes about demonstrating how well you fit in.
Oof. I'm so sorry that happened to you and congratulations for re-enrolling! I just want to say-- you do not need her to tell you that it was real. I haven't been in your exact situation, but I have talked to a former abuser about what happened. I expected that he would apologize. Instead, he said "you believe you were mistreated?!" in this incredulous tone of voice and proceeded to gaslight me. So I hope that your bully does apologize, but in case she doesn't, don't take it personally. She bullied you because of her own personal shit, you did nothing to deserve being treated that way, and that's the truth whether or not she's self-aware enough to admit it.
This is also my life. USELESSNESS SOLIDARITY.
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