I had a relationship in which my girlfriend always cried. I tended to view this as I sign of weakness and now I realize that was a mistake and I was negatively affecting that relationship with that mindset. Maybe I could have saved it, but now I am married to a woman I love very dearly so I would prefer not to think like that. I also have always wondered if our culture didn't emasculate men who expressed tears in the same way women do (different from what I like to call manly tears for example saving a "brother " think Saving Private Ryan or in sports) maybe we could solve relationship issues easier.
Excuse me, what is lion? Also, do you feel that the male style of communicating is objectively better? Based on what is characterized as male and female styles, in my opinion rationality is going to be better. But I am a man.
Wonderful stuff here Ron, I have never had an abuse church culture yet, and I hope not to.
I'm glad my wife doesn't cry... I can only remember one time when she did and that was when her mom died at a very young age, (we're not at the age normally when parents die yet). However, sometimes I feel my wife can be a little aloof. Compared to me she is less emotional, but I am not very emotional myself but I feel that it would be better for our marriage if she was more open. Ron, do you have any advice? I don't feel that her coldness is an artificial thing, but should I try to respect her differences or push the issue more?
I know that this post was written in only the most positive of intentions, but I personally am slightly offended that you are measuring the success of a man by how much he makes and a woman by if she can attract the attentions of a rich man. This feels demeaning to me, as a man married to a loving wife who makes around 70% of our income. Sorry if I'm being too critical.
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