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14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Can You Fix Your Marri... · 0 replies · +1 points

Brokenhearted:

Thanks for the kind comment. I'm very sorry for what you are going through. I hope that you and your husband are able to work through this difficult time and restore your marriage. Don't be afraid to get some marital counseling. If he won't go with you, then you go by yourself.

I pray that everything works out for you.

Sincerely,

David

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Be A Great Dad To Your... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi Tara -- thanks for the comment!

You raise some very important questions. As a dad, I can say that I have struggled throughout my life in giving just the right amount of attention to both my daughter and my son. It is difficult to know.

What makes it even more difficult is that children aren't all the same. I can't say that you need to spend X amount of time with your daughter per week, just because I've been successful giving my daughter that much attention.

The important thing is that you have to be present -- you have to be there, and you have to try. Only then can you hope to discover the needs of your children.

David

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Never Run Away · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi Steve! Thanks for the comment, and for your honesty.

I'm certainly no professional, but I do think you should speak with a counselor. Perhaps he can help you get to the bottom of this need you have to shirk your responsibilities and leave your family.

I wish you the best of luck in figuring all this out!

David

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - How To Be Affectionate... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks for sharing, Susan, and for your continued support!

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - How To Have Great Conv... · 0 replies · +1 points

You're too kind, Susan. I write about this topic because it is one that I've struggled with frequently throughout my marriage, and I know that I'm not the only man out there who has this problem.

Thanks for the additional thought, too. You are right on there. Many men are problem solvers, and want nothing more than to just solve their wife's problems, instead of listening to her as she talks her way through that problem.

Thank you for continuing to be a reader.

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Men: Things You Must S... · 0 replies · +1 points

These are excellent points. And this kinda goes along with an article I'm working on now. Slow down and get to know the other person before you rush into a lifelong commitment with them.

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Men: Things You Must S... · 0 replies · +1 points

I agree with this. If each member of the couple puts the other first, then this won't happen.

Serving = good
Expecting to be served = not good

Just my opinion.

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Men: Things You Must S... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi ABSue,

Welcome to Control Yourself, and thanks for the comments! I find it interesting that both you and John talk about our roles in life being based upon our gender.

Suppose both members of a couple work outside the home and both provide for the household income. Does all the "serving" still fall on the woman because she is a woman? I think that each member of the house should do some serving. Serving is one way to show love and appreciation.

I stand by my assessment that a man who does housework is not being made into a woman; in fact, I'd argue that it makes him more of a man.

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - Men: Things You Must S... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hi John, thanks for commenting. I disagree with your point of view. Being a husband is much more than bringing home a paycheck. I may not fully understand what you say here, but it appears that you want the benefits of being a husband, with very few of the responsibilities that go along with them.

None of this seems relevant to the points of the article, though. My points are about common courtesy and respect for women -- not the emasculation of men.

14 years ago @ Control Yourself! - 5 Things Forrest Gump ... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks, Susan. I've watched that movie many times, but never the way I watched it when I was writing this article. It is definitely a classic.

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