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8 years ago @ The Toast - "You left your culture... · 3 replies · +23 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 0 replies · +2 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - This Week, I Think · 2 replies · +15 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - Normal, Old-Fashioned ... · 1 reply · +16 points
Jean-Marc Nattier - seems he was into photoshopping before photoshopping was a thing.
According to wikipedia: "Nattier's graceful and charming portraits of court ladies in this mode were very fashionable, partly because he could beautify a sitter while also retaining her likeness."
8 years ago @ The Toast - Hard Luck: On Motherle... · 1 reply · +10 points
I read this beautifully written piece for that exact reason. I'm 33 and have not seen mother since i was 13. Cutting off communication with children for religious reasons being okay in her world.
It feels shameful because it is it's own kind of death and limbo at the same time. But I feel like I can't tell people that because I think they will they "Well at least there is a chance you can still talk to your mother so you don't deserve to grieve." But there is a loss...
Recently, I talked with a friend who had just lost her father. We were talking about parents and she asked about mine. When I very briefly (and full of shame) explained the situation, she was very empathetic and said it's hard in it's own way because there is no closure. I was grateful to her for those words.
Like ladyraptorclaws, I have had to function like she is dead. I'm just now processing all of this and the impact it has had on my relationships or lack there of. I realize I have been denying the grief associated with this for 20 years and this year I am determine to start the process of healing. I can't go backwards in time and fix anything but I can learn to live my life fully with that mom-sized hole as being part of me. I've been reading the book "Death benefits : how losing a parent can change an adult's life-- for the better" to help with this.
8 years ago @ The Toast - Let's Talk About Our Pets · 0 replies · +10 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - The Convert Series: Em... · 0 replies · +2 points
8 years ago @ The Toast - How To Describe An Orgasm · 3 replies · +11 points
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