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8 years ago @ The Toast - An Open Thread, and Se... · 0 replies · +5 points

Because it was ALL the best
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8 years ago @ The Toast - An Open Thread, and Se... · 1 reply · +11 points

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 2 replies · +40 points

I have admittedly not read her book but another thing that frustrates me is the amount of criticism leveled at her in contrast to the accolades offered to Guy Delisle for his white tourist diary Pyongang: A Journey in North Korea. That dude had an incredibly condescending/clueless attitude toward North Koreans and their predicament and critics ate it up.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +35 points

This story is a terrifying combo of Heathers and 9 to 5!

(Skinny and Sweet 4eva)

8 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +64 points

Whoa, Suki Kim's editor is TERRIBLE. I can just imagine the blurb on that book cover. "Eat, Investigate, Love is a story of one woman's undercover journey through North Korea and back to herself, but also with some reporting..."

8 years ago @ The Toast - Open Thread! · 0 replies · +13 points

Megyn Kelly for that one time she schooled Karl Rove on Obama winning the 2012 election.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +2 points

I hear re: 'either they're wrong or I'm wrong'. That seems like an inevitable phase if you've spent years being given the side eye by girls who wear makeup etc. I feel like the thing that really opened my eyes was when men started to tell me, as a form of compliment, that I'm not 'like other women' because other women are shallow/weak/vain/superficial etc. I want no part in that kind of misogyny even if I don't wear skirts.

Here is a trove of articles covering a wide range of topics from transmisogyny to the myth that being femme automatically confers privilege. (I don't believe in butch privilege either but that's a whole other matter). It's a list by and for queer femmes but I think a lot of points basically apply to all women who could fit somewhere on the femme spectrum. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1DA32WZZH0SGOP...

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 2 replies · +6 points

Sometimes it feels like womanhood is such a very narrow tent that there's no place for those who shop in the menswear department. I'm in that camp and I get the fear of internalized misogyny colouring the way you resist gender normativity. I've gotten a lot out of reading stuff by femme folks who reject the devaluation of femininity and it has saved me from falling into an anti-femme mentality even if I don't identify that way.

Your last two paragraphs here really leap out at me. One of the shitty parts of our culture is that no matter how we identify, people are going to make false assumptions about us based on our bodies and clothes and choices etc. It's sad to know that people confuse who we really are based on superficial signifiers. I try to take comfort in the fact that I know who I am regardless of that nonsense, and that there are people in the world with more nuanced understandings of gender, who are prepared to see us for who we are. Who are those people for you?

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 3 replies · +76 points

Same guy also argued that the women of Lysistrata weren't "as inspiring" as the Sabine women and that abducting women is a surefire way of ending political conflict.

At the end of term he asked me on a date despite the fact that I'd spent the entire class shooting down all of his comments as racist and misogynist. I didn't mention I was gay because I didn't want him to think he would have had a chance otherwise. He told me that my "boyfriend" was too old for me and revealed that he had twice followed me from class to lunch dates I had with MY DAD.

8 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +6 points

Thank you for sharing this, it touches on so much of what I resent about OITNB.

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