In my case, it's my husband who has always been the driving force behind my working outside of the home.
He was raised with a working mother, who was not driven by the ideas of feminism, but grew up in a dysfunctional, abusive home, and work was a way out of her childhood home, and a security in her dysfunctional and abusive marriage.
Nonetheless, she worked, and they had money to be comfortable.
I'm thankful that my husband supported us, while our kids were young, but the message was clear, that it would be different when the kids were older. He felt the burden of doing it alone. Please understand that he was never unkind about this. He's a good father and husband, and loves God, but the message was planted in him a long time ago.
I found peace in part time work, I felt it was the best of both worlds. I had time to be productive at home, and time to be a help support our family financially. And, I liked my work. But, every time I would say how much I loved my job and loved being at home, he would reply that it was too bad it was not full time, and would recommend other full time jobs to me. Eventually, my employer eliminated my part time job. I was blessed to get a full time position, and not be left empty handed. My husband was so proud of me getting this job. It made me glad.
I see other women who balance home and work and spiritual life better, but I do not. I am exhausted when I am home. Health issues play into this. I have no time or energy for things I used to enjoy so much - things like cleaning, gardening, baking, doing laundry, decorating - things I know some women find mundane, and other working women still seem to fit into their schedules. I feel I am greatly missing out on my children. And, we are not better off financially. I don't have time to budget as well. I buy more things out of convenience.
I will keep my job. I see no way of going back. And, although it sounds contrary, I do feel it was an answer to prayer. It's just not the life I would have chosen.