KelliK
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13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - Mother's Day is coming... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - What I learned from ou... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - Why I'm over and done ... · 2 replies · +1 points
I had a reverse experience. I was fairly ambivalent about it and not committed to it at all. In fact, maybe mildly hostile. Clearly I could see the medical benefits, but also felt OK with bottle feeding despite my earth-mother-mother and her protestations about her radical late 60s nursing of my brother and I. I made an agreement with myself: 4 weeks before I quit, hell or high water, then I'm done. I figured I'd devoted much longer times than 4 weeks that to ridiculous, pathetic, painful, futile pursuits (like....JERKS I dated). I did have a rough start with my first baby. I got mastitis. But after probably 14 days, we smoothed out and I really loved it. I nursed the second one for two years, shocking everyone including myself. Of course, the second one was much easier since one of us knew what we were doing.
Give yourself a break. You did a great, amazing job to stick with it as long as you did in the circumstances. My close girlfriend has struggled horribly with breastfeeding after each of her two IVF babies were born. She worked 80 times as hard as me for a fraction of the reward. The second time though, she was able to give herself a break and quit early. We all need to be more gentle with each other.
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - My growing boy and the... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - My growing boy and the... · 0 replies · +1 points
Truer words were never spoken. !
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - My growing boy and the... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - My growing boy and the... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - My growing boy and the... · 0 replies · +1 points
13 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - Who's watching the baby? · 0 replies · +1 points
14 years ago @ Offbeat Mama - Respecting myself and ... · 1 reply · +1 points
I think "the molding of her as a person wasn't mine to touch" is overly simplistic. You are quite obviously molding her as a person every day. Your very decision to walk away and not discuss religion is molding her as a person. Your influence on her father will mold her in many ways. Your choice to distance yourself from her, or maybe on another day not to be distant. All of those things will have a profound effect. Silence is a powerful thing, regarding religion as well as many other things. And reservedness is not always bad - it can also be a strong message. But you are very obviously shaping a child's character if you are in a parenting role.
My parents are still married also - 42 years.