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16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Who Would You Do? · 1 reply · +1 points

By the way, Dragnet and Athlone McGinns, I've been giving quite a bit of thought to the "Acting White" argument, and it may not surprise either of you to know that I have quite a different take on the matter, Stay tuned, I have plans to post a bit on this issue very soon.

The Obsidian

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Who Would You Do? · 0 replies · +1 points

Comments & Observations...
http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2010/04/22/...

My deepest thanks and appreciation to all who participated, and to Ms. Walsh.

The Obsidian

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - The Combustible Mixtur... · 0 replies · +1 points

I don't consider myself an authority on Game, but I know a little bit, and hopefully the above links to previous posts and articles by me will give you a bit of assistance moving forward.

In addition, I have taken the liberty of posting your letter on my blog, as I have a running series called "A Test Of Your Game" where I assess a Man's skills (or lack thereof) along with my readers and we give critques, as well as what we hope are helpful pointers as to how he can improve. Here's my inaugural post in that regard:

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2010/03/17/...

Hopefully, my readers will have more helpful hints, and of course, I'll have more specific things to add in that regard that aren't necessarily germane to the topic nor is the focus of this forum per se; however, I am most grateful to Ms. Walsh for her openmindedness and deep empathy to see things from a Man's POV.

Best wishes.

The Obsidian

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - The Combustible Mixtur... · 1 reply · +1 points

Althone McGinns,
My apologies for being a bit late to the dance, but I wanted to just chime in a bit since my name was brought up (thanks to the gentleman who did so!).

First, I would like to offer the following links to my blog that may assist you:

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2010/02/13/...

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2009/12/27/...

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2009/11/12/why-game-...

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/...

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2009/11/02/...

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Divorce American Style · 0 replies · +1 points

"One, it’s not just unemployed men or McDonald’s cooks who have become marriage-avoidant; working-class men with decent jobs are also shying from the altar. Two, cohabitation among low-income couples has been increasing; about 40 percent of all out-of-wedlock babies today are born to cohabiting parents. Why would there be a dearth of marriageable men, when there appear to be plenty of cohabitable fathers? And three, marriage improves the economic situation of low-income women, even if their husbands are only deliverymen or janitors. In a large and highly regarded study, the Urban Institute’s Robert Lerman concluded that married, low-income, low-educated women enjoyed significantly higher living standards than comparable single mothers. Joe Sixpack may not be Mr. Darcy, but financially, at any rate, he’s a lot better than no husband at all."

- Kay Hymowitz, Marriage & Caste In America

O.

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Divorce American Style · 0 replies · +1 points

Also, Kay Hymowitz's views on the matter can't b e overlooked and present a nice counterpoint to Coontz:

http://www.city-journal.org/html/16_1_marriage_ga...

Money Quote:

"The conventional answer to the puzzle is this: in an economy marked by manufacturing decline, especially in cities, too many of the potential husbands for low-income women are either flipping burgers, unemployed, or in jail—in other words, poor marriage material. But three facts raise doubts about this theory."

Holla back

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Divorce American Style · 2 replies · +1 points

VJ,
Yea, I'm hip to Coontz, read her book on marriage, read a number of articles she's written and have heard a number of interviews she's given. She knows her stuff, but I'm a bit leery of the slant she takes on things - like Ehrenreich she's something of a Socialist. So, I take what she says with a grain of salt.

O.

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Divorce American Style · 0 replies · +1 points

" And that’s another thing that burns me up about Women like Gottlieb-which, I am very sad to report, are the coin of the realm in our times: they not only want, or expect, but DEMAND the tip-top absolute best Man in the Universe, but give little if anything in return. They surely aren’t offering equal value, that’s for certain. Ever took a peek at Craig’s List, or Match.com, or eHarmony, and looked at these ladies ads? Their “lists” of the ideal Man are yay long, but notice something:

They never, ever, offer what the guy gets in return. It’s almost as if these gals are doing such sought after guys a favor just to be in their hallowed presence. What’s in it for me? Not a whole lot. Gimme, gimme, gimme.

No, screw that. It ain’t “almost as if”-it IS as if."

http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2010/02/19/...

The Obsidian

16 years ago @ Hooking Up Smart - Monsoon Season Diversions · 0 replies · +1 points

I found the "|Figures of Speech" segment of the post to be a classic example of the Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind, to say nothing of hypocritical in extremis. As I've written about at my blog recently, the very same Women like the one who made a stink abouyt what the poor gjuy said will have NO problem in the least being easily as objectifying about Men, if not much more brutally so - the only difference is that Women were never called on the carpet for their rank bigotry. That changes now. ____http://theobsidianfiles.wordpress.com/2010/03/04/...

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