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9 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - My Letter to Society's... · 0 replies · +1 points

Great piece on choosing your own aesthetic way in the world as a woman. I would also add that women are judged not only for their appearances but for what they do with their bodies. Society wants women to look and act sexy but not TOO sexy. There's a fine and dangerous line between being an object of desire and a women with her own desires who acts on them.

Re: wearing thong panties I'm a fan as I find them comfortable. I also like to play with fashion and wear heels on occasion. These are costumes, a part of the theater of persona. I am aware of the distinction. I don't need to let my legs and armpits go hairy and stop wearing the little bit of makeup I do wear to prove I am an authentic woman. I once conducted an experiment where I shaved one leg and let the other grow out and then took a poll to see how people reacted. The results were surprising: people whom I'd have guessed would have hated the hairy side actually liked it and vice versa. Seeing them side by side changed people's perceptions.

Women can be complex, powerful badasses and do what they want with their bodies. It's not easy but it's possible. The key is to keep the dialogue open, which is what you are doing.

xxx

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - The Dark Secret Reason... · 1 reply · +3 points

Interesting piece, especially after the one in which you wrote about treating a man's sexual needs as an obligatory chore like walking a dog.

I'm impressed at your willingness to suss out the trouble beneath the surface, returning to that only real place, the heart.I wish for you that whomever you choose to partner up with will be as willing as you are to take risks, be vulnerable and meet you in the field. You deserve it.

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - The Rise and Fall of T... · 0 replies · +5 points

To me this article is the New Age (albeit thankfully abridged) version of the book "The Rules" which didn't then and doesn't now do women any favors. Due to my age (49) I have been jokingly called a cougar, but I have never chased a man in my life, nor do I sit around waiting to be ravished. I've just been my authentic self, and that seems to be enough to inspire mutual attraction between me and others of the same stripe. While it can be fun to play around with various sexual roles, i.e. "top," or "bottom," etc., what attracts me the most is not to be wooed, ravished, or penetrated, but to fully be seen, heard and felt, and to do the same for another. No polarity there, just a pure exchange of energy.

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - The Pleasure of Taking... · 0 replies · +1 points

A gorgeous homage to the poetics of the body. Is there any realm more vast and open to ecstatic, imaginative discovery? xxx

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - "Careless Women Never ... · 1 reply · +1 points

Lovely, makes my spine tingle and my heart swell. Good advice for any gender. xxx

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Sex, Death, Sacrifice ... · 0 replies · +3 points

Beautifully intense, going straight to the heart like a dagger of love.

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - If you find an animal ... · 0 replies · +2 points

Ben, sweetheart, I wish you really did love it when people don't jive with you, because then this conversation could be interesting!
No intention to be right here, nor to further your assumptions about the "kind" of comments I leave or the "kind" of person I am. Your piece struck me more for what it didn't say than what it did. My apologies if my comments prickled you. My advice to you would be to look inward. . .;-)
xxx

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - If you find an animal ... · 2 replies · +1 points

Ah, yes, forgive me for overlooking that important detail: the implement used to kill the puppy was a TILE, not a rock.

My comment was not meant to judge your actions, though it appears that if someone does not perfectly jive with your point of view you get a bit prickly. I am simply trying to understand the intention of this piece. So much is left out. It is a provocative experience you are writing about, with disturbingly graphic details. Why not include the human, with his mixed feelings and messy contradictions? To boil such an experience down by suggesting we "do the best we can in each situation, and move on" seems to color it with a bland relativism that does nothing to illuminate any potential depth and meaning.

I really want to know: How did you feel emotionally when you were killing the puppy and how did these feelings manifest? What did your body feel like during and after the puppy's killing? What did you do with the puppy's corpse? What insights (if any) were revealed to you? How did you make peace with what you did (obviously you did, but it is not apparent in the piece itself)? Details such as these would elevate this from fluff to something profound. Just my take.

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Guide to Connecting wi... · 0 replies · +6 points

Does this woman's ridiculousness never stop? I am always amused by writers who find it necessary to write a follow-up disclaimer when their work gets trashed. This bit is almost as bad as the first. Who cares who took her photo, whether she had shaved her legs or not, who her ex-flame-turned-friends are, whether she has street cred from teaching yoga in a gym, etc etc me me me me me myself and I. . .

12 years ago @ elephant journal: Yoga... - Dating a Yoga Goddess. · 0 replies · +14 points

Oooohhhh noooooo, not another plastic yogini-doll performing the ever-popular Head Up Her Ass-ana! This is so bad it’s good. What we really need now is for someone--man or woman--to write a piece about how to get away from these posers, though it should be pretty obvious. When she floats up on a cloud of patchouli and whispers, “Have you surrendered?” yell, “Hell no!” and run. You’ll save yourself the cost of all those "jewels, fancy dinners and surprise trips to exotic locales" and most importantly, from having to listen to her chant her mantra day and night, "Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me. . ."

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