This was a great article!! I am now in the fat category unfortunately. I used to be thick, but I know the difference. I'm in the process of losing weight. It's important for us to be healthy. Thick is not too bad as long as your weight is not primarily in your mid/upper body (closer to your heart). Believe it or not, women that have those small waists but big booties and thighs are healthier than women with big stomachs. but weigh the same.

Love is love. I think the ideal is to marry someone of the same race, but if you are attracted to someone of another race and fall in love I believe it is just as beautiful as black love, latino love etc. Go for it :)

What illogical reasoning? I was responding to being called a name that didn't fit. It implies that I just get f***ed and left or that I have sex a lot. Neither of those are true. I've only had sex twice this year with the same person and again, the last time was 5 months ago. Also, I've never messed with a married man either. I have dealt with unmarried men with a girlfriend before. I don't chill with them to get anything done for me. I work very hard and pay my own bills, live by myself, and still go to school. Its not easy, but that's how I like it. I'm not desperately seeking friends or male companions. lol Again...assumption. I said "we're good with friendship" and you interpret that into me really devaluing myself and looking to a man to do that for me. You REALLY don't know me. You know very little about me except my opinion on this particular subject. It's amazing how such "educated" and "high brow" "sisters" are the first to fire off insults left and right and make assumptions with dimestore psychology. I even have a man that I have dated (he's single btw) that I told I would be sad once he gets married. Again he is currently single but we live in different states so we're not together and I know that eventually he will date someone else and get married. He actually looked at me like I was crazy and said "What will change??? I still want to see you The ONLY way that we won't see each other when i'm not single anymore is if YOU decide not to see me because I'm married. That will be your choice to cut me loose" I was surprised by that statement because I never expected to hear something like that...But again women ALWAYS want to lay blame on other women and don't even take into account that more often than not, a dude is pleading his case for why its no big deal to do his thing on the side. You must have also missed the part where I said I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I'm not looking for anything (including sex) right now. The time that I've spent being single has shown me a lot about men and how easy it is for them to lie to their woman's face. There are definitely good men out there and I know this. You assume a LOT. One thing being that whenever a dude pops up wanting some that he just gets it. Not true. I control my body and my intentions. Try your "logical" insults once you've actually taken the time to read. u may learn something. I definitely have men that are interested in me but career-wise I can't commit the time that it takes to make a relationship work. Oh and if you want to see my friends, be my guest honey. www.facebook.com/binkii52. Send me a request and see all that you want. I have a very eclectic group of friends. Some are happily married, some are unhappily married; some are divorced some have had children out of wedlock and get along with their child's other parent, some are dealing with heartbreak and can't get over a no good man/woman, and some are in happy relationships and expecting babies. Me? I date, but nothing serious right now and have made it to 28 with no baggage including emotional which apparently you have.

Why does it have to resort to name calling? I'm not that but if it makes u feel like u "put me in my place" then by all means lol I was just stating facts. This has nothing to do with self esteem either before u even try to go there. I'm not interested in a relationship right now but I do have needs from time to time. Last I checked I am a grown ass woman and can make the decision for myself who I deal with and when I deal with them. If we're just chillin' and going to the movies and dinner and sexing, how is that any different than any other "dating"situation. I guess anyone that goes out on dates and has sex with them is that name too...I haven't even had sex in 5 mths for the record, but if someone else's man is approaching ME then how am I the bad guy. I wasn't looking for him or anyone else.

I've been saying this for the longest. Also, one thing that people always ASSUME is that the jumpoff wants to be loved. We usually don't want love. It can and has happened...but friendship is enough for the ones that understand and PLAY our position. It's not about taking wifey's place. Wifey's will never understand.