thank you so much for your blogs. I see where we have gone wrong in all these 8 areas! My husband and I had been to the counselors, read marriage books,etc. Yet we both became so bittered and hardened due to just daily letting these 8 things set in. And I the "spiritual" one who always wants to make a change, or try harder, was so bittered to even think of doing one more thing to please or show love to my husband. I am ashamed. But thank God for his grace, he let us get so broken, so like you said we had a good marriage, the best we could build. Now we are letting God build, and I am so excited abou that! Your story really helps and your honesty! God Bless.