Thanks for everything you do. :)

The password is "cat".

Marriage exists because every wall that humans create wants to come down. Society creates us to be separate, but everything in us wants to be together.

Being completely in sync with another person has to be extremely rare. When it does happen, it's not likely to last for long. I think it's something about our learned disposition to reflexively throw up barriers. Maintaining a state of real openness is like being ready to sneeze and trying not to sneeze; you can only maintain that magical pre-sneeze state for so long.

But I don't think there is anything about being open to others or the world that means losing yourself. Diversity and uniqueness seem to be really important in the vast scheme of things.

I read something by a Christian author years ago; she said that submitting to God never meant giving up our individuality, but becoming more of ourselves, and who we were meant to be. I agree. Even if we were able to wire our brains together, so that our every thought was a shared thought, we wouldn't be giving up our uniqueness, but sharing it with someone else, allowing it to experience itself fully.

Becoming one with God, becoming one with the world, becoming one with each other...it's about removing the barriers that keep us feeling small and alone.

I guess I kind of do it already - like I said, my experiments in self-segmentation haven't been that successful. But I think this realization means a turn, maybe imperceptible right now, but the kind of turn that tends to snowball. When the Puget Sound ferry pulls away from the dock, you're not even aware at first that it's moving. But before you have a chance to think, it's in deep, and there's no turning back.