Glad it is helpful, Tonia. Find your own strategies that work for you. You can do it!
These situations are so tough and painful for everyone. I have found that most people involved in an affair won't come to grips with the pain they are causing until they experience a tremendous amount of pain themselves. Most often, it seems like that pain comes in the form of the affair not working out the way they wanted. All of a sudden…the blinders come off, and they start to see the situation a bit more as "reality" than the "fantasy" that they've been living in. For your own sanity, it may require a bit of distance from your friend. That doesn't mean that you don't love them or don't want to be with them, but their drama could be too intense at this season of life. You don't need to tell them that you're creating some space, but they'll start to feel it if you quit asking about their relationship, quit pursuing them to check in, and quit being willing to dialogue as if life is normal. If you stay connected in a healthy way, you'll have a chance to be with them when everything ends up falling apart.
Hi Lorraine - I'm bummed that you're going through this. I can only imagine how tough this is for you and the predicament you find yourself in. You can love her without condoning the affair...it's a hard road. I'm not sure where you are in terms of faith, but I'd encourage you to lean into God and ask for wisdom. In my faith tradition, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."
Steve - It's fun to see you loving on your kids and creating adventures with your family!
Andy - I thank God with you. New seasons bring new perspectives and fresh opportunities to experience grace and transformation.
LOVE that idea...I think I'll try it...minus the water!
You should forward the link to the owners of the URL...maybe I'll convince them! BTW, when you're in LA, let's be sure to outline our new book together - "101 Ways to Have a Great Skype Call."
Katie - it was SO GREAT to meet you and connect. I'm excited to stay in touch...
Glad you loved it...so great to connect!
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