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12 years ago @ Daily Camera.com: - Finding Fabian Del Ros... · 0 replies · +2 points

@Bing987 - Many times it becomes more about getting the family answers than it is about solving the case. However it can certainly help a case be solved and justice served if the remains are found.

I know the public rarely thinks about what the families of the missing face. I think they think that life just goes back to normal for them. It never goes back to normal for them. The families of the missing face an ongoing trauma every minute, day, week, month, year, decade(s) their loved one is missing. It's not something that can be just forgotten or dealt with. The best missing person detectives out there realize this and work hard to find the missing so as to give the families answers. Those detectives that don't get it and don't work the cases prolong the families' hell and that is so wrong.

12 years ago @ Daily Camera.com: - Finding Fabian Del Ros... · 0 replies · +2 points

Thank you to Vanessa Miller for writing this great article! So glad the Boulder Police Department has actively worked this case all these years and stays in touch with this young man's sister. We don't often see that happen in the world of the missing. Also very happy to hear they are using NamUs!!! ____Also addressed in the article by the sister of this young man is the reluctance to get DNA from her parents who hold out hope. I hear that often. I myself see DNA samples as a tool of hope. Every day a match is not made hope can stay alive. All families of the missing can and should have sample taken. The kits are free and law enforcement can request them through NamUs. There is no charge to the families. ____I encourage this writer to keep writing articles on the missing. ____Maureen____Victim's Advocate Team Kansas NamUs Academy Nov. 2010 http://www.namus.gov__Admin: Peace4 the Missing: http://peace4missing.ning.com__Fox Valley Technical College Responding to Missing and Unidentified Persons National Training Conference - Scholarship Recipient (Feb 2011): http://www.fvtc.edu/missing__Project Jason Keys to Healing Retreat Attendee 2009 and 2010 http://www.projectjason.org__

14 years ago @ Diane Dimond - The Maliciously Missing · 0 replies · +1 points

You say, "They are not malicious, they are victims of an illness" but in another post you say "Yet you want any runaway adult to be forced to undergo medical/mental evaluation? Who would pay for all of this?" So it's a loving kind thing to do NOT to get someone help? We treat our pets better than that. So you would rather pay for for the law enforcement investigations and searches that go on for years? And, no one is talking about warehousing the mentally ill. An evaluation and then the individual can decide their own course of treatment if a diagnosis is made during that evaluation. And, if you read the law I'm not even proposing evaluations. But it should be the wife of 28 years right to be able to ask for an evaluation for the person she loves. And, my husband's evaluation would be paid for as he has insurance for life...but I guess we all do pay for that one, happily as a thank you to someone who fought for this country and served it for 20 years.

14 years ago @ Diane Dimond - The Maliciously Missing · 0 replies · +1 points

The law I propose won't help me but it will help other families from having to go through this. And, it does help the person who is walking away from their life, they don't have to go under cover, hide, and break all sorts of laws in doing so. They don't have to put themselves into high risk life styles with total strangers just to start a new life. They simply state to law enforcement their intent and law enforcement lets the family know that there loved one presented themselves and wishes to start a new life. Law enforcement won't be required to tell the family where their loved one is, just to notify them that it is their loved one's intent to start a new life. Beside it would do away with "voluntary missing" as they would not be missing...they won't be lost to have to be found!

14 years ago @ Diane Dimond - The Maliciously Missing · 0 replies · +1 points

Just at what point in all the years of not knowing where my husband was do you think I was not frantic? I was on the airways and the Internet and you can go to the Missing Pieces Radio show where I state that my husband knew that he could always come home. And, I've got news for you what you see in the media is maybe .5% of the missing cases that exist. Missing male adults are the least concern of law enforcement and media. I have fought to change that. You act like mine was just a case of a jilted wife....to be just the jilted wife sounds like heaven compared to what I went through! 4 years of hell. I couldn't even fill out a simple form: Married, Divorced, Widowed? There is no "Other' on forms but that's what I was.