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16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - What about health care? · 0 replies · +1 points
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - What about the men? · 0 replies · +1 points
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - Revisioning the Revisi... · 0 replies · +1 points
I really got to understand what he was going through -- moving away from a home that used to offer some diversity, starting over in a new town which was predominantly white and not always friendly to differing races, and the prejudice that he faced from a school district with some ignorant children in it. I really used his experiences to revise myself, learn how i felt about races issues and how I could be better about it. I think I was fortunate to get the chance to entire the revisioning stage as early as I did, it has really shaped me to be who I am today.
I also think it is interesting to consider the LL Bean ads we looked at the other day, even though i know this isn't the appropriate blog i guess. My friend and his family were very successful, and honestly very wealthy. They were far better off than my family was growing up, and the always dressed in nice clothing -- such as what would be offered at LL Bean. In fact, my friends father always dressed very nicely, and him and my friend wore shorts all the time (which is why I was confused about that comment in class) because they saw no point in being hot. It just struck me as funny to realize that some people would call them a "white" black family. Yes there were "white" tendencies they had, but that was because my friends mom was white. My friend and his dad certainly held onto their black culture (my friend liked to have an afro and even corn-rowed it a few times), loved listening to what is categorized as "soul music" and enjoyed things that are typically labeled "black." But they were just themselves, they were bigger Philadelphia fans than anything, and would identify stronger with their love of the eagles and phillies than their color as an indicator.
Overall, my experiences helped me to enter revisioning, despite being in a poorly diverse town. I learned that labeling someone as a "white" black person is foolish, its just who they are, who they choose to be.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - If men could menstruat... · 0 replies · +1 points
However, the free tampon issue...at first I was confused, why would they be free? It's a product, there are costs endured with the product, and thats it. But then I thought about it in terms of condoms (thank you persons post above) and it does make sense. There are always free condoms, but I do they it differs slightly. Condoms are given out to prevent the spread of diseases and prevent conception. Tampons are a personal choice, some girls (or guys if they had it) might like to use pads...I guess it all depends. I think that Thursdays class really gave better insight into was Sam was trying to say on Tuesday, and it really is a pretty unique topic to talk about. More power to you women out there who have to deal with it on a monthly basis, and know that while I can't personally relate to you, I wish you didn't have those physical pain struggles.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - Does this rudeness thi... · 0 replies · +1 points
I think that this happens for a few reasons. First, I think this relates back to our discussion in class that the worst thing you can say to a white person is that they are a racist -- slightly off color remarks at most white people will not offend them. I think that this is interesting because the things that white people can say to black and brown students can cut deep, it can hurt, because they're often embedded in things that are beyond their control (such as skin color that has had a negative impact on their quality of life years ago). The only way to really get a white persons nerves, to get at something that might resonate with them is to call them a racist (unless that person truly is, they might like it then). Saying something that isn't entirely true, and categorizes a person negatively hurts them, most people don't want to be or seem racist. As a white person we understand that all the races are equal, it hurts us to be told we don't believe that way.
Additionally, I think remarks made about white people where not as rude as the remarks made against the black and brown people. Say someone is a bench warmer, or that they can't dance is almost like poking fun at meaningless stereotypes. However, saying that a person is loud and annoying is hurtful. Those are hurtful stereotypes that can make a person really feel bad about themselves -- no one wants to be called loud and annoying.
I think that both of these reasons are why there was no reaction from the white people when rude remarks were made about them, and why there was a reaction from black and brown students when tings were said about them. Hopefully we can continue to be mature in our use of the text board, it could be a really useful tool as long as we don't act like middle school students.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - What's With the Theme ... · 0 replies · +1 points
Like the majority of others who are on this blog response, I think that to claim theme parties are only hosted by white people, and are used as a statement about other races is ridiculous. I find this blind accusation of racism to be farcical and flat out rude on several levels. First, to proclaim that only white kids hold themed parties is plain out stupid. While I have never been invited to a party held and partaken in largely by black or brown students, I would have an extremely difficult time believe they don't like to spice things up every once in a while with a creative or hilarious themed party.
Additionally, to say that any themed party is aimed at being disrespectful to students of a different color other than white is insulting. While some assholes out there may in fact have parties for this reason, they are the exception and not the rule. The only time we have ever had, or I have ever attended, themed parties, it has been based around some social commentary for the moment (ie making fun of Jersey Shore, which is a show a lot of us as students loved to watch), or around some major holiday (ie ugly christmas sweater party). I fail to see how either of these makes fun of any race? In fact, like other students have said, maybe the only possible offensive party would be a "gangsta" party -- by why are we assuming these parties are disrespecting the colored communities out there. There are plenty of white "gangsters" too. If those who do have parties must make fun of certain races, make fun of your own. Being a white student, I know I would have no problem attending at "white and nerdy" or "redneck" party, however, I would like to point out I would have no place taking part in any party that might be used to discriminate against another race. I like to have fun, not bring other people down.
In this post, the questioner asks "why do there have to be themes?" I would like to ask right back, why not? Themes make things exciting, fun, and different. It keeps the monotonous ritual we all usually indulge in of drinking entertaining. It is fun to dress up like you're from the 80's, fun to wear your bathing suit in April, fun to dress up like other countries for the beer Olympics. It keeps things interesting and fresh and gives everyone a chance to just have some fun with each other. I don't see this as offensive to anyone, and I know that our themed parties will not stop.
If you think this is something only white students do, try introducing it to people of other colors at their next parties. I firmly suspect everyone will enjoy it, and wont have any problem poking fun at ideas, not people.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - What's With the Theme ... · 0 replies · +1 points
Like the majority of others who are on this blog response, I think that to claim theme parties are only hosted by white people, and are used as a statement about other races is ridiculous. I find this blind accusation of racism to be farcical and flat out rude on several levels. First, to proclaim that only white kids hold themed parties is plain out stupid. While I have never been invited to a party held and partaken in largely by black or brown students, I would have an extremely difficult time believe they don't like to spice things up every once in a while with a creative or hilarious themed party.
Additionally, to say that any themed party is aimed at being disrespectful to students of a different color other than white is insulting. While some assholes out there may in fact have parties for this reason, they are the exception and not the rule. The only time we have ever had, or I have ever attended, themed parties, it has been based around some social commentary for the moment (ie making fun of Jersey Shore, which is a show a lot of us as students loved to watch), or around some major holiday (ie ugly christmas sweater party). I fail to see how either of these makes fun of any race? In fact, like other students have said, maybe the only possible offensive party would be a "gangsta" party -- by why are we assuming these parties are disrespecting the colored communities out there. There are plenty of white "gangsters" too. If those who do have parties must make fun of certain races, make fun of your own. Being a white student, I know I would have no problem attending at "white and nerdy" or "redneck" party, however, I would like to point out I would have no place taking part in any party that might be used to discriminate against another race. I like to have fun, not bring other people down.
In this post, the questioner asks "why do there have to be themes?" I would like to ask right back, why not? Themes make things exciting, fun, and different. It keeps the monotonous ritual we all usually indulge in of drinking entertaining. It is fun to dress up like you're from the 80's, fun to wear your bathing suit in April, fun to dress up like other countries for the beer Olympics. It keeps things interesting and fresh and gives everyone a chance to just have some fun with each other. I don't see this as offensive to anyone, and I know that our themed parties will not stop.
If you think this is something only white students do, try introducing it to people of other colors at their next parties. I firmly suspect everyone will enjoy it, and wont have any problem poking fun at ideas, not people.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - When Do We Do or Say S... · 0 replies · +1 points
What I think is even more troublesome than the level of discrimination and blind "patriotism" in the United States is how few people stood up for the rights of a fellow human. IN the one students post he made a great point, we are always quick to say its "not our place" until something is happening to us. It is this shortsightedness and stupidity that has held us back as a nation and a people. It is ALWAYS your place to step in when you see the rights of another person being infringed upon, because if you don't, who will? Who will stand up for your own rights if they're infringed upon? I would hope that someone of a different religion, look, or creed would stand up for mine as I would stand up for theirs.
I understand the student who spoke out in class saying that he was brought up to not speak against other people in their place of work, it is their business after all. But, I think that the lesson went over his head. I think it is wrong to tell a shop owner they need longer hours, or better prices, or different ingredients if they chose to use the vendors and workers they have. Those are their choices. But some issues transcend the right of the owner to run his business, such issues like human and American rights.
When we can't take responsibility upon ourselves, and those of us in college now are supposed to be the "leaders of the next generation," then it is foolish to think that we have the opportunities we desire assured to us. It IS up to us to make a difference, to stand up for those who's voice isn't always heard, and to remind business owners, or racists, or discriminators that the very rights they feel entitled to are applicable to every American. We are the UNITED States of America, lets start acting like it.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - LGBT Class - Question ... · 0 replies · +1 points
Now, I realize that we can't force churches to perform marriage ceremonies on gay or lesbian or whatever they might be couples; they're a private organization that has every right to make their own choices. They don't want to support gay marriage? Fine. Here we come justices of the piece. They're right to perform marriage ceremonies is equal to the one that lies with the churches, and they are supposed to be acting in the best interest of the American people. I fail to see why we aren't allowing people to live the life they want, and grant them the title that they seek: marriage.
Okay, so lets suppose that things stay the way they are now, no gay marriage. Why the hell don't we have civil unions in tact? Yes, I firmly support whatever title the government can come to that will allow gay couples the rights that they deserve and seek. I understand that the title of marriage means a lot to them, but I also think they would be willing to make an immediate compromise to ensure that they are protected from the system working against them because they are not legally bonded. It is just ignorant of us as a whole to deny them their equal chance to a happy life.
I have a cousin who is getting married in a few months. She's a Catholic , just like me, but her fiance is agnostic at best. Yet, because they are a man and a woman, they can be united in a church. Something about that just seems hypocritical and flawed to me. Now, granted, they love each other and I am positive they will have a fantastic life together, and they have every right to a marriage in a church like my cousin dreamed of growing up. But so do gay couples. They have a right to a ceremony they can take pride in and remember forever. It is the biggest day of their lives, too.
One of my most powerful experiences with marriage and the civil union issue is through a different close cousin of mine. He was married, in a church, and started on a life together with his wife. Well, less than two years later things fell apart, and they have since divorced each other and gone their separate ways. Says something about the sanctity of marriage between a man and a women huh? Well, some of his coworkers are lesbians, and they love each other deeply. They have been together for over ten years, consecutively, and live a happy and harmonious life. Yet, because they are not a man and a woman, they are not entitled to the right or ability to solidify their union, marriage, whatever and make it permanent. That just doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t think gays would be reducing the “sanctity of marriage,” but rather increase its strength and legitimacy among individuals who truly love themselves. Gay couples aren’t responsible for the divorce rate. Straight couples are.
16 years ago @ Race Relations Project - Swinging Past the Othe... · 0 replies · +1 points
Now, what really surprised me about this weeks classes, was how much I learned about myself. Like I said, I come down on the left. I have always considered myself a democrat, and always considered myself a liberal. After learning about Sam's position on the issue, I know I have to moderate. I have always been the guy who wouldn't back down in a political conversation about Liberal vs Conservative. I always thought we could pin it on life circumstances -- people need help. They don't get a fair shot at things. I am fortunate to be in the position I am in because I came from a decent enough home environment. However, I have come to realize I was passing the buck. When Obama talked about education, he said we need to stop passing the buck. We need to stop blaming others, and be the ones to turn off the TV. We can't blame it all on others. It is far too easy to blame it on a life situation.
This is what made me want to moderate. While I will never consider myself conservative, and I firmly believe a quote I once heard on The West Wing "Not everyone can pull themselves up by their bootstraps," people have the option to make the most of their situation. This is what they need to do. Yes, not all starting lines are the same. Yes, people need and deserve help because of their life circumstances. But no, it is not enough to blame it on the situation and passively wait for assistance. Seek out that assistance, and make the best of what you have. You might be surprised by the results. I know that this lecture isn't entirely going to change the way I talk politics, or even the way I look at what the political agenda should be, it certainly has made me more aware that I should trend towards the middle. Life is a combination of events and circumstances. Maximize your potential by asking for help, and trying as hard as you can.