At this point in my life, I don’t want to work with people I don’t like. For me, “like” covers a lot of ground, but fundamentally I have to trust and respect them.

So I see three different concepts in here. I also don't want to work with people I don't like, but am willing to make exceptions if necessary. I also don't want to work with people I don't "respect" (broad word), but am willing to make exceptions if necessary. I will not work with people I do not trust, no exceptions.

I then implement my own filter which I call the “fuck me over once rule.” Everyone gets to fuck me over once. When I find myself in a fucked over position, I confront the person. If we reconcile, there’s one more chance. If not, we are done.

One of the concepts I've been thinking about is whether the trust established anew after a "fucked over" situation can be stronger than the original bond. Ie, does the rupture, if reconciled, actually strengthen the long-term prospects of the relationship. Many say that even if you re-build, it can never be the same. I tend to think that sometimes going through a low point, a trust-breaking point, can be a long-term net gain in some cases.

In other news, not a cloud in the sky and sunny here in Southern Cal. <g>

But I do miss my Colorado snow. Never will I forget waking up in Boulder, looking out my window, seeing white stuff fall, and thinking, "Holy christ. I'm fucked."

A great example of how "every cold call can be warm" - a concept I've blogged about a couple times: http://ben.casnocha.com/2007/11/every-cold-call.h...

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Now Seth, don't let your modesty prevent you from talking about how you like to DANCE to 80's music. Disco, baby, disco.