Go ahead and make your list, even the stuff you would never admit in public. (You don't have to post those, but you should at least know for yourself. lol). But the point is be super clear about what you want, and you would be amazed how the right person shows up with combinations of what you want you never thought possible. And maybe not a ninja, but martial arts and cookies actually ARE possible, and come to think of it, I think I actually did meet a woman who knew martial arts and loved to cook too. So your request is not impossible.

The next step is to be real. Be yourself and be clear about what you are looking for. The wrong ones will not be interested, and the right ones will be attracted to you like a magnet.

When I created my list for a "perfect woman" who I never expected to actually exist, I did it mostly as a mental exercise and to also to get clear on what I didn't want. I expected to get 50% or less of my wildest dreams. After all, no woman could possibly have ALL of these traits, right?

Then, I started meeting women who were similar to the list, to my amazement. Where were all these women before? And then, I met the one. Who fit the list like a glove. Not 100% but so close I am still shocked to this day. And there were even bonuses I did not even think of.

There is someone for everyone. Clarity and authenticity are like a magnet. The compatible sides attract, and the non compatible sides repel. Don't worry about the non-compatible ones. The compatible ones will adore you for you.

Good luck, and go ahead an make that list. Be flexible enough to allow variations of a theme, but also know what you want, and probably more importantly, what you don't want.

I wanted to make a comment about taking the risk and starting a business together. This can either be the most wonderful thing in the world, or the worst thing in the world, because it magnifies the dynamics of a relationship, in either a good way or bad way.

Running a business together requires that you two truly be partners, in all ways, to a much greater extent than if you were just a couple and did not run a business. If you have separate careers, when you are not being good partners, you can run away to work to escape. When in a business together, you cannot do that, you are locked at the hip.

They say that you should be more careful picking a business partner than you are picking your spouse. After all, if you pick the wrong one, I think you know what could happen. However, if you pick the right one, and you have a business together, and you and your spouse are willing to be true partners, then you two will become one, an unstoppable team who creates a wonderful life together.

There is someone out there for everyone, so I know that you can get what you want. I got totally clear about what I wanted in a woman, and, amazingly, we found each other, and are taking the steps to move together. I wish you luck. And yet, I know you do not need luck, because you create your own luck.