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13 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - Should Christian Bale ... · 0 replies · +1 points

That was my first thought, “What an ‘effing idiot!” But probably just people who know NOTHING about how trauma works or effect people…and I guess it is lucky for them that they have the luxury of ignorance.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - Memoir Writers: I Don\... · 1 reply · +3 points

If my life were a work of fiction nobody would buy it, it wouldn’t be believable.
My recent post Since When Is Your Anger MY Symptom?

13 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - Since When Is Your Ang... · 0 replies · +1 points

It is in the list…but should it be?

There is definitely hope for Hope, she has suffered much and earned every right to BE angry…AND untrusting. It is a long, long road, but she can learn that she also has the RIGHT to be happy too.

13 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - Since When Is Your Ang... · 0 replies · +1 points

“Oftentimes, RAD parents need lots of encouragement too. These RAD children can have some very negative effects upon their parents, including: (1.) Parental dreams are dashed. (2.) There is an apparent frustration present due to the lack of bonding. (3.) RAD children often vent their hatred toward their mother. (4.) There's an apparent close bond with their father. (5.) There's a lot of external criticism of parents. (5.) Holidays are often difficult due to the child's anger. (6.) Parents may appear hostile, angry and defensive.” http://voices.yahoo.com/the-symptoms-effects-reac...
“Some of these parents may even appear to be a bit unreasonable or hostile towards outsiders on occasion, especially towards those who do not understand what they are dealing with or who might be ridiculing or questioning their unique methods of parenting these children.” http://www.thelittleprince.org/symptomsandcauseso...

13 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - Since When Is Your Ang... · 1 reply · +1 points

That is a great question Lydia...and children precieve their parents as, "angry and hostil would make sense. Right?
“Let's start with why we appear hostile and angry. First our children: When we take their actions personally we are so hurt.” http://reactiveattachmentdisorderlife.blogspot.co...

13 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - Adoption PSA From Seco... · 0 replies · +2 points

I think it was a tongue in cheek commentary about how somehow people tend to look at adopting exotic black children from forging countries as “safer” and more fashionable than adopting “regular old” black children out of the US foster care system. I honestly thought it was sadly true and funny…. “Thanks to her honor student they were able to find a medium sized black child.” Truly sad…and funny because if you listen closely to some people who talk about adoption, that is what you hear a lot of. I want this. I don’t want that. This child is defective, we are gonna return them, what I don’t get a full refund on our purchase price?”

13 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Nature/Nurture/Somethi... · 0 replies · +1 points

I am in the both camp, while I have never really completely lost my connection with my origionaly family, I have DNA traits- such as my dad’s dyslexia. But I would not be the person or personality I am today if I did not spend the majority of my formative years being raised by 20 something grad students just off the U of M campus…and in many ways I have learned to be that obnoxious word: GREATFUL for that.
My recent post The Medication Generation: Teenagers and Antidepressants - WSJ.com

14 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - where is the mommy-war... · 0 replies · +3 points

*Standing ovation* You totally ROCKED this post!
(hope you wont mind if i quote and share)

14 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - How One Person’s... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thank you, thank makes me feel good. I am glad to be back in the position where I can post more….obviously I have had a lot swirling around in my brain all this time

14 years ago @ http://sundaykoffron.b... - How One Person’s... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thank you Lisa, I am certainly not implying that to want to share ones religion with a child in their care is wrong…I the situation I mentioned I truly believe that the people involved thought, based on their belief system, that saving us from an eternity of damnation was the right thing to do and that they did it with love in their hearts.
I am just trying to point out that if a child is being oppositional, defiant, of having melt-downs around church and religion…it may not just be will full disobedience, a power struggle or over “nothing” there may be more to the story and it may be really emotionally difficult for them to process.

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